Dealing with your loved ones past

My husband has a very hard time dealing with some of the things I experienced in my high school days. I find it very difficult to comfort him. I have tried explaining that I was young and ignorant and that I cannot change the past now, although I would if I could. The ironic thing about this whole situation is that his past is almost identical to mine as far as what we experienced, which makes it even harder for me because I am of the opinion that he should understand considering the similarities. He claims it is because he loves me so much and cannot deal with the thoughts that go through his mind about my past. I could just as easily say the same about his, but I don't. I am bothered, I won't lie, but I deal with it by reminding myself that he was young and made mistakes, just as I did. What can I do? He is making himself sick over it - literally? He has been very depressed about it for a few days now. I am of the opinion that I should never discuss my past with him ever again. Is that how it should be? Any suggestions would help. I even considered making an appointment for us with a psychologist.

Making an appt. with a psychologist or a couples therapist wouldn't be a bad idea, especially if he is willing to go too.
In fact, you both should consider doing this before this problem gets out of hand and spoils your relationship, life is too short to keep dwelling on the past, things that you can't change what happened. Couples counselling will help teach you to put it behind you and move on but you both have to work along with the counseler too. I wish you much luck and love, let us know how you make out.
Take care,
"darkeyes"

I agree w/DarkEyes that going to a therapist or marriage counselor would be a good idea. I also think there are problem certain things we should not tell our mates. Why dwell on the past if it is going to upset him so much? Tellling a therapist is a much better idea. Then you can deal with these issues and maybe they won't be present in your mind all the time. Good luck.