[greenpunkergirl]

Ok, I am completely lost again. Nothing new right? Well here we go on another one of gpg's not getting what the universe is saying rants/questions. So here goes...... He went to Vegas, and as I had mentioned previously, and I haven't heard from him, which is normal on vacation. He's done nothing wrong. It's just that I really miss him, and think about him all the time, and I can hear him saying the stupid stuff we joke about if I think about his voice, and I just don't know. I hate people for the most part, other than you guys of course, cuz you guys rock, and when I go on dates, I admit, within the 1st 5 minutes, I purposely sabotage them, cuz the guys are so lame. I never talk, yet I can talk to him, and we've only been on two dates, so I don't get it. I really like him, and I just don't get why. I haven't known him for an extremely long period of time........ nothing adds up. We do have a lot in common....... we even say stuff the other one is thinking, which is so corny! But yea...........what is going on with me? Does anybody have the answer? <font color="green"> </font> <font color="#008800"> </font> <font color="pink"> </font>

[muse]

This is gonna sound corny, and DON'T rush forward no matter what, but... maybe you're falling in love with him? I know that's the way I felt when I first fell for my boyfriend.

The most important thing you can do right now is give the two of you a fighting chance at a relationship if that's what you want from this guy. Don't be too afraid to see him again, and just be yourself with him. If he really is as great as you say, don't let him go!!

Whatever develops, A ) don't expect miracles, but B ) if miracles happen with this guy, appreciate them for everything they are. Best of luck to ya!!

yours,
~muse

[greenpunkergirl]

I hate people, I don't get close to anybody, and I don't really want a reletionship until I am 1,000,000% sure that I won't have to put up with datings bull again........ but I am super nervous he won't want to see me again.......le sigh

[Smilie]

In the beginning when I was dating my boyfriend I was falling in like with him as I got to know him more. And he got to know me more. We found that we had a lot in common and thought alike and our moral standards were the same. And for 4 years I knew I was falling in love with him. It felt like I was free falling. "Scary I know but also very lovely."
Smilie

[Juliana]

The subject line of this thread reminds me of one of my favourite Walt Whitman quotes:

"Only themselves understand themselves, and the like of themselves,
As Souls only understand Souls."

It sounds to me like you're falling for this guy... and that's a good thing! I'm like you in that I don't click with a lot of guys. I'm very rarely attracted to men. I don't get crushes as often as my friends do. I have to feel a very strong connection with a guy before I feel like a relationship is worth the effort... because, rationally, I feel like I need to be in love about as much as I need another hole in my head.

When I DO feel that connection, though, I have learned that there's no point in trying to make sense of it or fight it. Love isn't a rational thing. It's a form of temporary insanity... but in a good way. So, if you have strong feelings for this guy, embrace those feelings. You may not understand the guy completely or understand exactly why you feel the way you do, but falling in love can offer us new insights into who we are and what we want... and that's a very positive thing.

[greenpunkergirl]

Juliana,
you sound soooooooo much like me...... I do care somewhat about this guy....... so maybe I will soon have another hole in my head, lol. The connection is very strong, seeing as he says he cares about me a lot, and his friends say that's out of character. I am trying to fight off these feelings, because I am so scared of being hurt..... But hey, can't stop it now, we've been inseprable since he came back from Vegas. Geez, I wish I understood what I am doing........at all.

[muse]

Try not to worry so much. Keep your head, of course, but rule numero uno: be yourself. I also relate to you and Juliana in that I've never been one to get crushes and whatnot--I only involve myself if it's serious.

Lemme tell you something my mom told me: she said that her husband, my dad, is her best friend. That says a whole lot, I think.

Augh, I wish I could give you more solid advice, but emotions in general (especially love) are quirky, difficult things. At this point all I can say is that you should enjoy having found someone who truly seems to care for you, and let your feelings for him grow without too much anxiety. GOOD LUCK!!

[greenpunkergirl]

That is hard to do, I am terrified. He said something that made me feel extremely nervous....... he said that he feels attached to me, and he says for him that isn't normal, and doesn't know if it is a good thing or not.......I am scared that he is getting to serious too quick. He tells people I am his gf, says that he refuses to share me..........which is odd, he drove me to work today, and then came to get stuff from my job and meet my bosses. It was kinda scary. He is handsome, sweet, kind, a gentleman, has a good job, he seems to be everything a girl could ask for, but I am afraid that he may be a little fast paced for me. I really care about him, but I don't want to get into anything serious quickly.............maybe I am afraid of having the kinds of things I deserve........ like a good man for instance. Or is it possible that he is going at light speed? who knows anymore........but he is cooking easter dinner for me and my roomies, so we should see how that goes.