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#1
Jan 31, 2015, 08:44 AM
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Is there anyone else out there who has lost their belief in love? I'm talking romantic love, not love for children, family, and friends. Seems like all there is is lust, which fades and then there's the friendship kind of love (if anything at all).
It reminds me of something Dr. Phil says, that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. So if romantic love hasn't happened, does that mean it never will? I'd like to believe romantic love is possible, but I've grown so cynical about it. Anyone else know the feeling? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#2
Jan 31, 2015, 03:20 PM
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I seem to have the opposite problem. I have romantic love for others but no sexual interest unless I am really enamored with the person. Romantic interest is more safe to me than sexual attraction. Yes I believe very much in romantic love and I have to have this first before any sexual attraction. Maybe try a wait and see approach with someone and not let the sex come before you feel a smitten feeling first. I don't know if I helped at all but I hope you will keep hope in romance. Best wishes.
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#3
Jan 31, 2015, 03:59 PM
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I just became a victim of financial scam one of those "romance scams". So I am the last person to ask. I do believe there is love but right now I am at all time low as fake "love" caused me to lose large sum of money. I don't think I will stop believing in love , I won't. It is there.
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Jan 31, 2015, 04:05 PM
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Romantic love is a relatively new invention. We never used to believe in such a thing...
The idea of marrying 'for romantic love' is still something that strikes a fair chunk of the world as crazy... The whole thing of 'love at first sight'... Before you know anything of their personality and their habits... Maybe romantic love (and the 'and they lived happily ever after' fairytail ending) is... A fairytale. Maybe... It becomes a bit harder to credit as you get older... Don't get me wrong there is an element of 'chemistry' or something like that when it comes to physical attraction. There is a little evidence that it is partly about genetic disparity (we sometimes don't find people who are very genetically similar to us to be romantically attractive - which helps prevent recessive genetic disorder). In other words... There is some evidence that there is a rationale for it... But to base a relationship (rather than a sperm donation) on that? For a lot of people in the world... It is about compatibility. Similar interests, similar background and culture, similar goals. Then making the decision to have a family together. Not many parents would force their children to marry against their wishes... But not many parents would be happy about them marrying solely for romantic love. Romantic love... Like most things... Can fade if you don't work on it / at it / give up. I think maybe that is the biggest fairytale of all... That you don't have to work at relationships in order to keep them... Pleasant. And healthy. |
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Feb 01, 2015, 12:14 AM
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I know this feeling all too well. I gave up on "love" a long time ago.
It ain't fun, but I try to look on the bright side - I enjoy my independence and self-sufficiency, nothing in my life holds me back from doing what I wanna do. Yes, the feeling sucks, but so does the fact that there are ten million reasons for two people not to connect and a handful of reasons for two people to connect. At this point, I'm way beyond giving up on love 
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Feb 01, 2015, 12:51 AM
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It's so hard to tell someone how deeply you love them and get silence in return. Especially after over two years with this person. I don't think I'll ever recover.
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Feb 01, 2015, 12:54 AM
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 That's how it was with my ex from many years ago. "I love you" was met with a "hmm" (acknowledgement) response.I know how tough it is to move on, but you have to think about your health, your happiness, and your future. I know that time heals wounds, and you can and will heal. So, is it over with that person ? Or are you still together and unsatisfied ? |
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Feb 01, 2015, 02:52 AM
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So sorry. That Hurts. And after two years if they did not feel love why they even stuck by you. You will recover though and life will go on Hugs Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:29 AM
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I think he's just afraid of being alone. I hope I recover. It's 3:30 and I haven't managed to sleep yet. My heart is in a million pieces. It doesn't help that the idiot in the apartment below is playing his bass. >:-[ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:36 AM
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:38 AM
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Why does a broken heart have to hurt so bad? I just want to curl into a ball, go to sleep, and not wake up. Not just because he doesn't love me anymore, but because I have nowhere to live now. My kids will live with their dad, but I'll be living out of my Jeep. It's just too awful to contemplate! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:40 AM
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Omg it is awful. Do you work can you find roommates to live with can u go to shelter omg so sorry
I lost all my money to a scam but I work and am going to get a second job now. You cannot work maybe part time? Can you stay with your ex until disability hearing? Oh how tough Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:42 AM
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No friends left. I don't work, and my disability hearing is five months away. Everyone tells me to give up my little dogs, but they're all that's keeping me going now. If I moved to a shelter, I'd have to get rid of them, and that's just not an option for me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:44 AM
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Stay where u live now until the hearing Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:44 AM
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I honestly don't know if he'll let me, but I can ask. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:45 AM
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Ask. He might let u just as roommates tell him u understand and won't ask for a relationship but have no place to live
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Feb 01, 2015, 05:48 AM
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I wanted to die when I realized I was scammed out of my money and i cannot get it back. But then I knew I can't do it to my daughter and my mother and my brother just can't. So I am not suicidal but not living sounds like an option right now . Are your kids gonna be ok?
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Feb 01, 2015, 09:53 AM
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I know what you mean. I think you reach a point where it stops being an impossibility and turns into a real option. Most people don't understand that. My kids will be fine with their dad. He would offer a place for me, too, but he only has a very tiny two-bedroom apartment. No dogs allowed. So when my (ex?) boyfriend wakes up, I'll ask if I can still stay here. I'm so sad. Didn't sleep last night, just cried a lot. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 03:21 PM
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Sorry. If he isn't evil he will let you. I left my BF last year ( I was the one fell out of love due to his substance abuse problem) and he offered me to stay as long as need to as it was his house. I left in about a month and a half when I found an apartment. He was hurt I was leaving but was willing to let me stay as long as need to, I just stayed in a different bedroom.
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Feb 01, 2015, 04:02 PM
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He'll let me stay. I just don't know how to get over him while we're living in the same apartment. :-( It hurts so much and I feel like I can't avoid him. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 01, 2015, 04:07 PM
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Sorry I know how you feel. It was tough when I had to stay with my ex and he has large house and we had our privacy. It was worse for him than me, he cried etc bad. But I had to leave. It was the worst break up, worse than my divorce. We are still dealing with it, we've been together over 8 years. We remained friends and talk now but our lives are shattered. We both make all kind of mistakes because of that. Tough so I understand you
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