[Sleeping-T-Rex]

This is going to be long so bared with me.
First off I'd like to say I know I made a bad decision so if we could move past that problem and more on to the present one that'd be great. I already hate myself enough as it is.
This long and unpleasant adventure started with a guy, a guy who had a girlfriend. I told a friend that he was pretty good looking, before this I never even thought to bother with guys who were taken. This was the first time I had and the very last time I will ever. I was encouraged to flirt with this guy, we'll call him C, by my friend, we'll call her M.
At first I didn't think it was a good idea but M said simply that C and his girlfriend were breaking up because they both had lost interest in each other. So yes I flirted and C and I got along together pretty well. I even went on a 'kinda' date with him. I could have slept with him on this first date but I avoided that set up like the plague. So no, I did not sleep with him.
After the one date I decided I didn't like going behind his girlfriend's back, I know I wouldn't like it if someone I was dating did that to me so I thought she didn't deserve it either.
I talked to C about how I felt and now that I look back on it he pretty much brushed me off by using pretty words to make me forget that I was on a mission to find out if her was serous or not about me. A few days went by and I asked him again, in a nut shell, "I don't like having to sneak behind your girlfriend's back and be a secret. I want to know how you really feel." To which he explained that he treats all his friends who are female like he was treating me and the whole thing was a misunderstanding entirely on my part.
Naturally I was pretty upset but figured this is what I get for being interested in someone who was taken, even if they played along. M was kinda mad about the whole thing and was on my side for awhile. I tried to get over C but I really felt betrayed on how he had spoken to me. I wanted to and still want to know why he did that, that's all.
I talked to M about in and it seems that in the course of two weeks she decided to side with C on the whole thing. C has not once spoken to me since. I even sent him one final message that went like-

Yah know, I'm not so sure that hanging out with you on thursday is such a greta idea. Now I know you're going ask why and pretend you have no idea. To which I will simply say is, you can pretend you're not smart but you are so don't give me that. Not mad at you pre-say, though saying I misunderstood the situation was a bit annoying.
It would seem that against my better judgement I still like you, which is retarded because logically I should hate you. You did play me after all. And don't say that you act the way you acted around me with every girl that is your friend because that's just a load of bull.
I'm writing this because I feel it needed to be said. And now that I've written it I feel better soooo….you can respond to this or not.

However M keeps bugging me telling me that C really wants to be my friend which has slowly started to annoy me. So today after seeing that C was online I decided that I was going to unfriend him so that I wouldn't be tempted to go facebook lurk on his page. I told M that I was doing this and that if C really wanted to be my friend then he should tell me him self. Not that I would want to be his friend any way. So after I told her this she got really angry with me and went on a long rant about how I was being immature.
So what of you all think of this train wreck?

[insertname]

I don't understand M's part in this, frankly. I don't understand why she is invested in the relationship between you and C - are you all part of the same friendship group?

It's annoying if people tell you you misunderstood when there was clear body language that you haven't, and yes he's being immature and yes he should tell you himself what he wants. I'd forget he ever existed, to be honest. Good on you for not doing anything behind his girlfriend's back too.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Sleeping-T-Rex

. I told a friend that he was pretty good looking, before this I never even thought to bother with guys who were taken. This was the first time I had and the very last time I will ever. I was encouraged to flirt with this guy, we'll call him C, by my friend, we'll call her M.

At first I didn't think it was a good idea but M said simply that C and his girlfriend were breaking up because they both had lost interest in each other.

So yes I flirted and C and I got along together pretty well. I even went on a 'kinda' date with him. I could have slept with him on this first date but I avoided that set up like the plague. So no, I did not sleep with him.

After the one date I decided I didn't like going behind his girlfriend's back, I know I wouldn't like it if someone I was dating did that to me so I thought she didn't deserve it either.

I talked to C about how I felt and now that I look back on it he pretty much brushed me off by using pretty words to make me forget that I was on a mission to find out if her was serous or not about me. A few days went by and I asked him again, in a nut shell, "I don't like having to sneak behind your girlfriend's back and be a secret. I want to know how you really feel." To which he explained that he treats all his friends who are female like he was treating me and the whole thing was a misunderstanding entirely on my part.

Naturally I was pretty upset but figured this is what I get for being interested in someone who was taken, even if they played along. M was kinda mad about the whole thing and was on my side for awhile. I tried to get over C but I really felt betrayed on how he had spoken to me. I wanted to and still want to know why he did that, that's all.
I talked to M about in and it seems that in the course of two weeks she decided to side with C on the whole thing. C has not once spoken to me since. I even sent him one final message that went like-

Yah know, I'm not so sure that hanging out with you on thursday is such a greta idea. Now I know you're going ask why and pretend you have no idea. To which I will simply say is, you can pretend you're not smart but you are so don't give me that. Not mad at you pre-say, though saying I misunderstood the situation was a bit annoying.
It would seem that against my better judgement I still like you, which is retarded because logically I should hate you. You did play me after all. And don't say that you act the way you acted around me with every girl that is your friend because that's just a load of bull.
I'm writing this because I feel it needed to be said. And now that I've written it I feel better soooo….you can respond to this or not.

However M keeps bugging me telling me that C really wants to be my friend which has slowly started to annoy me. So today after seeing that C was online I decided that I was going to unfriend him so that I wouldn't be tempted to go facebook lurk on his page. I told M that I was doing this and that if C really wanted to be my friend then he should tell me him self. Not that I would want to be his friend any way. So after I told her this she got really angry with me and went on a long rant about how I was being immature.
So what of you all think of this train wreck?

M is awfully chummy with C. From the description of yourself, your morals and integrity, my prediction is that had this worked, she'd be a wedge between you and C.

I feel you handled this maturely and rationally. Sorry it smites a little, at the moment. (Small wound, fyi)

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[JJBX]

Honestly, I would tell C's girlfriend that he's dating people behind her back and if she knows anything about it. It forces the situation to be out in the open because that kind of behavior just bugs me.

It sounds like he just wanted a fling. You didn't necessarily know that and M didn't seem to pass that information along either. He's insecure enough that he wants attention from females and arrogant enough to think whoever he's with will never pick up on it. He's immature and dumb, to be really honest with you. It's pretty clear to me that he's not invested in finding an actual relationship, which it seems like you're trying to find. I think your instinct to delete him from your Facebook list is spot on.

I have no idea why M is involved at all and she does seem awful pushy about it. I would want to ask her why the heck she's getting so pushy about a guy who she presumably isn't even friends with. I can't honestly think of why she would (unless she's just the overeager type?), but I don't necessarily jump to her being in some sort of relationshi with C. She could be, I have no idea.