[Depression_beater]

Hi there,*

I seem to be having some relationship problems due to my depression, paranoia and anxiety issues and need some support. Next month I will be going to Glasgow to meet a girl. I have booked my tickets and me and her are both going to stay in a hotel together. However I'm having very bad paranoia about this and very high anxiety issues. I want to be able to tell my mum but feel really scared and anxious about the outcome. I need to tell her as she reads all my bank statements. But I have no idea in how to tell her. *I have told this girl that I suffer with bad paranoia but I'm scared im going to loose her because of it. I have told her a straight up that are you definitely goingto come meet me. *I have told her I've been messed around in the past. She said no she will come and meet me. She saidshe uunderstands about my paranoia. Im just really scared that if it doesn't work out my mom will hold it against me. Saying that I've wasted my money and keep reminding me of my past relationships. I feel like this is driving me insane and I don't know what to do. Ive known this girl for a month and I feel like I am falling for her (I know it's very soon). Also it was just may last year I came out to my mum about my sexuality after keeping it hidden for some years.

[hvert]

Do you have to tell your mother the real reason? Can you say you are just going to visit the town? I actually almost never tell my mother details about my life because she is nosy and irritates me with all of her questions.

I hope your visit goes well.

[ptangptang]

Booking a hotel room for you both so soon kind of forces the issue. Would have been better to spend more time getting to know each other first i think. If not telling your mum is giving you all this stress then tell her. She'll ask where you're goimg anyway. do you live with your mum. I can see this is all going round in your head like a whirlwind. Your mum's going to find out anyway so just tell her. So she tells you you're wasting your money and reminds you of past relationships. so what. Get your head clear before you go. Go with an open mind, relax and hopefully you'll have a great time.
Ps . Don't live your life in "What if's". What if i say this then she says that and what if she holds it against me and what if........Get it all clear in your head before you go.

[Trippin2.0]

Why does your mom check your bank statements?


Is it your money or her money that she's giving to you?...


Sorry, I know that sounds nosy but my mom has never dared to check any of my private info, so I find this practice quite baffling actually.


FWIW, I wouldn't tell my mom I'm meeting a girl. I'd feed her a line.


"Throw things back in your face" type people you only share with on a need to know basis.


So she checks your bank statements, she needs to know you're going to Glasgow, what she doesn't need to know is why...