[Macd123]

Okay so I did a little experiment today (I've done this before but never wrote about it) I brought up previous topics of discussions with individuals. The first target was the girl at the place where I get my caffeine fix - I asked if she ever got that monkey she was talking about. She looked at me kinda of curious and blank. I reminded her that we had talked about pets the week before and she had mentioned she had always wanted a monkey. A faint recall came across her face - "oh yeah". Next I tried a discussion with the checkout lady at the grocery store - the week before I had commented on her purple hair and she said that she was thinking about blue next. "I thought you were dying your hair blue" I said. "What" she said. I just looked at her and said thanks. Finally, I talked to my neighbor about his rhubarb - the week before he had asked if I wanted some. He didn't really recall the conversation. Bottom line is I live in this hyper sensitive world where every word is important and to other people not so much. These conversations are so clear - the need for them to remember so desperate.

[Rose76]

Keep at it; you're off to a good start. You need more experience with interacting.

I think it's actually a nice trait to remember details about people and conversations, I'm quite like that myself, it means you're interested and listening.

[Perna]

I think I understand what you are saying with your remembering these details but the other person seemingly not.

The trick is to remember that you get to pick the details you remember in your head whereas the person you are remembering about has a whole slew of other details they are remembering in that time period between conversations with you.

I read somewhere that the average number of people we know well enough in a life time that they would come to our funeral is 250. So, while you might remember 250 items about those 250 people, each of them is remembering a different 250 items about 250 different people, you'd only be 1 of those people?

So, you are doing well being able to remind them of more of the conversation that interests you! Some people will remember and pick up on the conversation and others will not, people have different degrees of memory. I thought for sure your purple hair grocery clerk would remember the blue hair and was disappointed you gave up on her and just said "thank you" and left :-) I wanted to know more from her.

Sometimes I find it is fun to pretend you have not had the conversation before and ask the same questions you asked last time? You could have asked Purple Hair, "Have you only tried purple hair or do you change colors?" and see if she mentions the blue and then ask about shade of blue: dark, midnight; or bright, electric?