I don't know what im doing wrong or how to fix it

I suffer from border line personality disorder, depression and have extreme self esteem issues.

ive been seeing this guy for maybe 2 months once a week. we just started to have sex and he slept over the second time. thing is he was 3 hours late to our hang out session so he came over at 11pm. this is a normal occurrence. every single time we've hung out he's been late. i like him a lot. hes 12 years older then me and everything i want in a man, minus a few flaws. he talks at me not to me. he doesnt ask questions about me. he says he likes kissing me and ****ing me but thats it. it's just about sex is my understanding. so i called him out on it and said i need boundaries either were together or were not. hes not dating or ****ing anyone else apparently. he doesn't talk to me during the week except to call and make plans so he can get some sexual action. he laughed when i texted him i need boundaries and said hed call me and i basically said don't bother. why would he want to talk to me? he doesnt care he just likes the sex so why cant he admit it.

why does this bother me so much. my heart hurts. i like him a lot a lot and i dont know why and i wish i didnt. i dont know how to not let him break me.

Sounds like you describe. Lack of interest in you, as the person you are. He may have redeeming likeable qualities as a human, yet, clearly sounds like you've unmet relationship needs. If it's laughable to him now, doesn't sound like the type willing to change.



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It bothers you because you're not the kind of girl who only wants a penis inside her.

A lot of people want the emotional relationship in addition to the sexual one. And that's just fine.

Why can't he admit he just wants sex? Because then he might not get any...

That sucks. For me it's the feeling that I've been played that is the worst. I hope you can stay strong and resist his advances. It's really rude for him to show up that late and laugh at you.

Good move!

It bothers you because:

If you separate yourself from him those feelings for him likely will gradually lessen.

Would staying away from him break you?