[OurLadysTears]

I'm beginning to feel as though it's natural in a relationship. Some people say their significant other hasn't done such things but how do you know for sure? You approach relationships with trying to give your full trust. When you trust someone that gives them space to easily hide things. Some people have become elaborate in their lies and sneaking around. I'm always on guard. I look at my current relationship and if I were not on guard I'd see a lot of instances bypassing me. He is sweet, gentle, caring, and he goes out of his way to buy me things to make my life more comfortable. He has involved his family. He talks about the future at times. It is much of what you'd ask for in a guy and in response you feel as though you can trust and give a person space. Except, I did that and find that he is wandering around with another female in his spare moments. So what gives? Why play house with someone and play with their head?

[kim_johnson]

I think it is reasonable to think that trust needs to be earned.

[Scotty204]

In my experience everybody lies at some point or another in a relationship. Most little fibs are nothing to worry about however when you find out about bigger lies then it's a concern. Do yourself a favor and find out who this other female is right away

[~Christina]

My first husband cheated, every single person that we knew and family too would have neverrrrrrrrrr imagined he would do such a thing. We divorced.

I dated a fellow a year or so later .. I was consumed with fear that he would /might cheat.. I destroyed that relationship with my inability to just have faith in it.

My current husband and I had both been cheated on before, we know the pain it caused, We promised we would never do that to each other.. yes there is always a chance he could. But I trust him 100%. You either have faith and love for a person or you don't.

Some people just suck and should stay single and play.

Talk to a Therapist about this and process it, examine the relationship, learn what a healthy relationship should be. Not everyone is unfaithful. But once burned? you need time to heal and learn how to love again.

I married my stalker. Everything told to me was a lie to get that ring. Now it's up for grabs!

I'm so sorry for what you've been through. I suspect that some men are just insatiable. Their needs exceed the normal realm of an average relationship. Perhaps they just crave the attention of many because of their insecurities. They most likely have gotten away with lying their entire life. At least you have finally gotten to the truth.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Half the world knows not how the other half lies.

George Herbert (1651)

[StokesBill28]

I have been with my wife for 30 years and trusted he completely. Over the last few years I have uncovered some deception and lies as she covered up an emotional affair with another man online. Even after I confronted her and she agreed to stop an be totally honest with me I have found her connecting with other men online several times. My best friend, my wife and the mother of my children can't seem to stop the deception and lies. The truth is that there are issues in our relationship that need to be worked on. Some people can and will put in the hard work to make a relationship work, others can't seem to muster the strength. It is not easy to tell who will put in the effort, but I think you need to ask for it and give them a chance. But, you need to be prepared to make difficult decisions when you see the results. I am now wishing I did not ignore the signs early, it is much more difficult after 30 years and two kids.

Good luck!