Your views about taking REVENGE ?

So you do have choices ... years down the road your interested in revenge? Seems like such a waste of energy to be honest. Okay you got hurt.. maybe that is what triggered your depression , most likely it would have emerged at some point over something that didn't go the way you hoped anyway.

It's okay to be angry , it's okay to throw a huge fit, maybe writing her and them a letter and saying everything you think about them and their actions, get it all on paper and then burn it , let it go .. maybe by just venting on here it will help you to move forward to reclaim the life you left behind , its never to late to stand up and dust yourself off and get on with making your life enjoyable and happy.

The thing is .. it's 6 years later, I seriously doubt they can even remember what they said or did to you. I'm NOT dismissing your feelings , I'm just showing you that this hate your holding onto is just keeping you down. No amount of revenge is going to make you feel any better. The only thing that is going to make you feel better is getting back into the world taking back your life and finding happiness. Living in the past removes any chance of a healthy future.

Everyone gets dumped , everyone gets picked on or bullied , its just part of life sadly enough.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Simply said, it sounds like an ulcer to me. Unless you are transfixed, obsessed, and like any other criminally insane villian in the movies, why?

Thank you. Whenever I feel I have hit a stone wall, discussing my problems on Internet with people like you has helped. If not an answer it at least gives me a direction to move ahead. Deep inside I know revenge is bad. But the thought of enduring INJUSTICE keeps pricking me. In the coming days I will try to think of a righteous solution(I will stick to Dharma). Thanks for choosing the right words.

I realize I am loosing my present love by dwelling in the past.

One question, please do answer. If in future I meet those people on any occasion, how should I treat them ? How should I behave ?

I would totally ignore them like they don't even exist when I see them. Walk by with your head high.

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If you meet then? I would imagine unless you live in a small town that its very unlikely. Just go about your life. Focus on the woman in your life now.

I live in a large metro area and commute between 3 counties all the time. I bump on people often. I don't per se worry what's going to happen if I meet anyone as my life is not that dramatic lol but it happens quite often.

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RIGHT !

Good read.
How to Deal with Unfairness and Change the Things You Can

THERE WILL BE REVENGE !
but in an intelligent way.

Just becareful .. what you put out into the world , it will come back to you.

With all due respect, the REVENGE you describe sounds like a complete waste of focus. You should concentrate on rebuilding yourself completely independent of those that hurt you, and move forward. As long as you make it a priority to punish those who wronged you, you will focus on those long-ago wrongs and the pain they caused you, rather than dedicating yourself to building a successful and stable future. You are neither a tree nor an axe.

I think revenge is pointless in this case as these people moved on with their lives and neither care nor possibly remember you. By dwelling on it you only hurting yourself, not them as they most likely do not even remember you. Try to forget about them. You said you have a girlfriend focus on your new relationship and your success please

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You are blessed to have a GF who is so accepting of your obsession with your ex.


Why not work on appreciating her before you have another ex to take revenge on.

I have been with someone who was obsessed with his ex, he didn't plot a revenge but sure was consumed with hate towards her. That added to demise of our relationship as I couldn't live with it. I left.

She will leave if you focus on the past, don't

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Overall I think getting caught up in seeking revenge is not a good thing. However, I may be a hypocrite because I currently am engaged in such an endeavor myself. And oddly enough I do not feel bad about it where normally my conscience would get the better of me. In this case it feels more like refusing to be a doormat any longer and "turnabout is fair play". The revenge I'm seeking doesn't involve money or shaming anyone publicly, but it does get my message across that while I may have at one time been a "chump" that was yesterday.

“Living well is the best revenge.”

George Herbert (3 April 1593 – 1 March 1633)