[Gymgirl71]

(Sorry moderator if this posted multiple times still trying to figure this site out)

I have an appointment with a therapist next month. Basically I keep needing a man to define me and I keep them around for longer than I should. The last guy things started out great. But I felt in my gut, that something was terribly wrong with him. He didn't call much, mostly texted. Then when I would call him he would never pick up (well maybe twice), then he would disappear for hours on end on the weekends using the excuse he was with his kids all the time. It was sickening. Things started getting worse and I kept blaming myself. He would give these extravagant excuses for not responding to me or keeping his word that he was going to call. I knew it was a lie. Then sometimes he would text me around 8:00 PM saying he is going to sleep and wanted to say goodnight. I knew he wasn't going to sleep and it was a lie. Things got worse yet. I found him on a dating site (we agreed not to see other people), and he placed the blame on me asking what was I doing on there. I only went there for half a day because I had this bad feeling. Then stupid me slept with him. After that, he would take a day to reply to my text saying he was "thinking" like he didn't have enough time to think when he wasn't calling or replying to me. After that he would send a couple very sporadic texts until I put a stop to it. I have been in NC for 4 days and I am having nightmares with him in it! ugh. So of course I am second guessing myself and wondering...did I do the right thing or am I over reacting. He was being shady, unreliable, etc. I think if you really care about someone it should seem obvious. I was having major anxiety the last month.

Thoughts?

[jaynedough]

Sounds like it was a good thing to do. Hopefully your T will help you sort things out. IDK what to say about your nightmares. If you feel like you are in danger from this man, maybe you could post that separately so people who know what to do can easily find the post and respond.

Take care of yourself and welcome to PC.

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by jaynedough

Sounds like it was a good thing to do. Hopefully your T will help you sort things out. IDK what to say about your nightmares. If you feel like you are in danger from this man, maybe you could post that separately so people who know what to do can easily find the post and respond.

Take care of yourself and welcome to PC.

emotional danger if I dont steer clear. I had anxiety 24/7. I think he was a narcissist. I'm too nice so I attract them.