[AbbyWhite]

I have been with my boyfriend for six years. My parents don't like him from what they knew about him six years ago and don't know we have been together for this long. I do not live at home so have hid it well from them. Their reasons for not liking him were mostly that my job has better status than him, and he has fewer degrees than me (he does have a college degree though). They also wrote him off at the time as someone with no future potential.

He doesn't have more degrees now, but he is incredibly motivated and earns a very good living, more money than me currently. Anyway, I don't really know what to do because we will eventually be moving to the same city - we would like to get married at some point, but he is still waiting for the ok to meet my parents, and I am scared shitless about telling them that I've lied to their face all these years about my relationship status. This issue is the main one that puts some strain on our relationship, but he recognizes that we are a crazy good match for each other, so has been able to accept me for my faults (my family).

How can I tell my folks? I feel like a teenager but I'm 35 years old. Sad, but true... I keep thinking I'll grow a pair of balls and just do this, but it never seems to be 'the right time.' Any suggestions?

[AbbyWhite]

My parents don't like my boyfriend. Well, they said that a few years ago anyway. Since then I haven't told them we've still been together and dating. Me and my bf are both consenting adults of the same age. 1. How can I convince them that he is a good guy and 2. How can I tell them that we are serious now since they don't know we're together?

[Trippin2.0]

Well for starters, there's no need to convince anyone.


What matters is that you are convinced. End of story.


All they need to know is, he is your bf and they need to accept it.


You could just tell them the truth.


Hey guys, remember so and so from 6 years ago that you hated right off the bat? Well in order to keep the peace I never told you guys that we chose to stay together despite you disliking him. I'm choosing to tell you now since I am tired of keeping secrets and we are planning a future together.


Remember you are an adult, you don't need there permission or stamp of approval.


It's your life, your choices, and ultimately your consequences.


Making choices based on the wants of others.... Well others don't live with those choices do they....


Best of luck!!!

[Bill3]

What Trippin2.0 said.

How can I convince them that he is a good guy

You can't. Either they will figure that out on their own, or they won't. I hope that you move forward with your own life, in your own way, whether or not your parents are convinced about it.

[divine1966]

I hear you! Honestly screw them!

My family are so judgmental that if I go by what they say i would never be with anyone. I used to listen what they had to say and still sometimes do but I try to remind myself that I am an adult. Heck I am 49!

Do not even try to convince them! Who cares!!!!

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[BIG NI]

lol hi there

this is crazy, you dont want anybody s approval here, u love each other so let them get announcement not a debate. its your own choices and conseguences, beside that their reason of not loving you bf they lack sense of humanity and harmony. Such reason are very arogant and out of order from the beggining . i dnt knw why did you allow such disrespect from them in those previous year.

thy cant chose for you, you are an adult pls let them get it in their head. love is the foundations of everything. thy were wrong to suggest tht you were earning much than him thereof you cant date him. what was that. there is nothing to be ashamed of here.

please give them announcement, and announcement cannot be debated but can be motivated.

[AbbyWhite]

Thanks for the replies. It helps put some perspective on things. Sometimes when you're in the middle of something it's hard to see things as they are.