[jbug]

Today my dad and I got into an arguement. He ended up taking away my cell phone because last month I went over on my minutes. This is not the first time that has happened. I guess he doesn't realize how important it is for me to be able to reach out and touch someone. He also ragged on me for my car. Yes its not the cleanest but then again neither is his truck. He also got mad at me because I smoke. Ummmm its my lungs not his. In fact he smokes too so I don't understand what the big deal is. Does he want me to be sane ore not?\

I understand that he pays my bills etc but what about what I need to be sane? I need my phone what happens in the night if I'm having a bad night and I need to call my counselor's hotline? Now I can't because there aren't any pay phones around my house that accept calls back at. I need to be able to smoke. I need a lot of things that I don't get because he doesn't deem them important.

I guess I just needed to vent.

Janniebug

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do

[Starbuck]

Hi jannie,

This is my feedback at first glance.

The cell phone must not be restricted, I know, and it's important in the ways you've told us. It all depens on how you use it, I guess.

I mean, if, for a yes or a no, you jump to the phone, "trying to reach someone", then there might be a problem to me.

I don't know what the use you make of it, so I won't get further.

Nice to meet you Jannie,

Take care,

Starbuck

Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Studied and worked (Majors in History, Theology. M.A. in Sociology).

[jbug]

I have talked to my dad since our arguement and he said he's only taking it away for a month then I get it back. But to me that seems a really long time. But anyway.....my therapist has said I need to have a phone and tomorrow am going to try to get him to put it in writing so I can show it to my dad. Hopefully that will work. As for me using the phone to get a yes or no I don't. I miss being able to talk to my boyfriend after he gets off of work, being able to call the doctor if I need to. Coming up with $.50 is hard these days and then to get to a payphone hmmm.

Thanks for your insights.
Janniebug

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do

[Starbuck]

Hi again, jannie,

I did not know you had a borfriend and I don't know much about you (if you still live in parents home, etc.).

If I was rude in anyways, I'm deeply sorry.

Sincerely,

Starbuck

Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Studied and worked (Majors in History, Theology. M.A. in Sociology).

[(JD)]

crying's good.

well I have a wireless for emergencies only. sure it's easy to think of using it for other, but I just don't. If you went over on time and all those calls were for T talk, then you need more time... which would cost less than paying the penalty fee... or you need to learn to discipline yourself.

that's probably all your dad is trying to help you with: disciplining yourself... better than he did with himself.... he knows better and is trying to help you to learn that too.

keeping a clean car really isn't a big deal. if you really respect having a car to drive, you'd take care of it. there's more here than just these issues....

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[Starbuck]

I agree, SkyBdark



Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Majors in History and Theology. Masters in Sociology.

[jbug]

Well last night I plead my case again to my dad. I got my phone back with a stipulation that if I go over on my minutes again this month the phone will be taken away for good. I do have to earn it and his trust back. I have been given chores to do around their house when I am out here. I don't live with them I live about 20 minutes away. I come out here about 3xs a week sometimes more sometimes less depending on my mood. I came up with the idea to help out around here and will continue to do so because they give me so much.

You weren't rude SKyI thought the rest of the story should be told.

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do