I'm done

My bf just broke up with me

I guess I knew it was coming, but we had such a good weekend together....

All he said was he was confused cos we haven't been as happy lately... and now he just leaves me, breaks up with me... walks out on me crying this much....

ARGH WHY DO I BOTHER IN THIS LIFE????!?!?!?!?

I'm sorry. I know this is really hurtful for you.

((((((((nicole84)))))))))

hurtful? yes. destroying me? yes.

nothing can fix this

It's hard when you don't understand why it happened. Sometimes I find that even though the other person was the one who ended it, there were things that weren't working for me too.

Maybe you can get some perspective on it by looking at what was hard for you, too. That might help you understand why he bailed when he did, since he doesn't seem to be communicating very well with you.

You'll get through! Take good care of yourself this weekend.

We've had some issues I know that but I didn't think he'd just leave...considering we were having a good wkend and having fun and everything was good.

Things hadn't been perfect but relationships take effort. I just don't know what to think anymore. Its hard having lost someone so close to me

Nicole,

I'm sorry for the heartache you are feeling right now.

No two people are happy in a relationship all the time. Your boyfriend doesn't pass the maturity test.

It is a risk to become involved with people, but in my opinion heartache is better than staying alone, even though I'm sure it doesn't feel that way right now.

Hugs,

EJ

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We've had some issues I know that but I didn't think he'd just leave...considering we were having a good wkend and having fun and everything was good.

Things hadn't been perfect but relationships take effort. I just don't know what to think anymore. Its hard having lost someone so close to me

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I agree that it's confusing when the other person's behavior seems contradictory and unclear. It is very hard to lose someone who is close.

extremely hard... its like having something ripped apart from you and you have no idea what to do or anything. I've had relationships end but this was so different. We both aren't bad people, we never cheated or hurt each other... I hate that everything was so good most of the time, makes it so much freaking harder on me

(((((((((Nicole))))))))) I'm sorry. I know nothing anyone can do or say to make you feel better. It'll take time. It seems like it'll never heal and you don't want to hear that it will get better but it will. You're going to be fine. Let yourself grieve. And we'll send in the hugs.

Yeah its all so messy and confusing i've talked to him now and he said he hasn't shut the door completely on us... but there is alot that needs to change. I hope we can work something out, I don't want to let him go forever

ok, pardon me for saying this, but if he breaks up with you, and then says that the door isn't completely shut, there is a problem. Now from my oh so humble of experiences, when guys say things like that, doesn't matter if they're Ghandi or Hitler, it means they are seeing what's out there, and keeping you on the side so if they feel like they can't find anything better, they can come back to you. Don't be a sucker! Time will heal all, and let it. Don't go back to him. Maybe once the grieving is over, and you look back on this, you'll realize that he wasn't as great as you thought he was, and you'll find someone that is. Sending you 2 huggles!

GPG

I think there is more going with him than you do not know about. Greenpunkergirl is right....he's looking around to see what else is out there for the picking.

Hun, this will sound harsh, but have you considered the idea that maybe he has outgrown the relationship and needs to move on to experience something new? I mean you guys sound so young. Too young to be so involved. Especially for a male. Males at your age, have no intrest in 'settling down'. They need space and if they start feeling smothered and start fights, it's a sure sign this is what is happening.

You guys are just becoming in life...this is probably what he is thinking...just becoming...'Why am I wasting my time here when I could be out partying and doing what my buddies are all doing". This is normal behaviour for guys his age. He will do anything to get out of seeing you so he can party with his guy friends...if starting a fight does it....he will.

I am sorry this is happening to you. It is a really tough thing to go through. All of us at some time or another have been through a breakup and they suck badly. Please allow yourself to grieve. Allow him to see that you know or think it is over. It will either show that the relationship is really over for good or bring him back begging for you. He knows he has you when he wants you so he isn't going to care to work at it...if you start acting like it's over and he's really not ready for it to be over...call his bluff...he'll be back on his kneesf ro you with gifts and all the great things ready to work at it again. What have you got to lose at this point?

Interesting take on all of it. He isn't one to go out and party and stuff with his mates lots though. It wasn't about that.

We have had a talk and agreed we don't want to see other people and that there was other influences that caused us to break up etc. Who knows im still confused...

Maybe you guys are right... he's just playing me