[skinny118]

Can anyone tell me some of the emotional symptoms that a victim of a Narcissist feels? My ex-husband has NPD and I seem to have emotional issues, particularly trying to work on a new relationship, I don't seem to know how to make things work.

[~Christina]

Well you need to find a therapist and figure out how to process the relationship with your Ex husband. being in a relationship with one is beyond taxing and it will have you uncertain about any kind of relationships and how you feel about yourself on all levels.

In Therapy you will learn what a healthy relationship looks like and you can learn ways to communicate with your new partner.

You need time to process and heal.

Welcome to PC

[hvert]

I am not sure what the emotional traits are. As someone who grew up with an NPD father and who then dated quite a few probable narcissists, I think some of the problems for me are:
- not knowing what's normal.
- too much attention paid to signs of someone else's pleasure/displeasure. This affects many aspects of my life.
- not enough focus on what I want, a feeling that I need to do what other people want because that's 'right.' Saying 'no' is bad.

That's about what I've identified so far. If you think that some of the stuff you are dealing with is related to your past relationship, you are probably right. The question I would then ask myself is 'what led me to that relationship?'

[PomeranianMommy]

For me it's having an unstable ego, that dissolves under personal attack from others. My mind goes blank and I cannot verbally rebuff or defend myself. I'm very easily made to take the blame in a situation. I just crumple in on myself.

[PomeranianMommy]

Originally Posted by hvert

I am not sure what the emotional traits are. As someone who grew up with an NPD father and who then dated quite a few probable narcissists, I think some of the problems for me are:
- not knowing what's normal.
- too much attention paid to signs of someone else's pleasure/displeasure. This affects many aspects of my life.
- not enough focus on what I want, a feeling that I need to do what other people want because that's 'right.' Saying 'no' is bad.

That's about what I've identified so far. If you think that some of the stuff you are dealing with is related to your past relationship, you are probably right. The question I would then ask myself is 'what led me to that relationship?'

This^ exactly.

[JeanPoole]

There's a book called "Will I Ever be Good Enough", written for daughters of women with NPD. It may have some helpful information for your situation. It helped me tremendosly in identifying and treating the 'ticks' and feelings that I had.