[GoodFather46]

I have been married for 14 years.

Me and my wife has been always in love.

Two years ago, our first child born. A very beautiful male child.

Since then, my wife's behaviour changed.

She doesn't give me attention anymore.

I work a lot, and I am a good father, always taking care of my son and my family.

But for her, it's never enough.

She is always unsatisfied, saying that I don't help her at home.

She said to me - "I don't love you anymore - I want to get rid of you"

She doesn't want to make sex, we make sex just 1 time in the twelve months.

One day she is in a good mood, and in the other day, she is in a bad mood.

I love a lot both - my wife and my son.

Psychologically, my wife it's with a disease or a syndrome ? what's the scientific name

of the disease or syndrome ? ?

How can I help her ?

She is 38 years old.

Sorry for my bad written English.

A good father - 46 years old

[Rose3]

Hi GoodFather46 - Fourteen years is a long time to be married. Has she said what kind of help she would like? Maybe it's been really a lot of work for her to have an infant, now a toddler? Have you (and she) considered going to a couples counsellor, to try to find out what's going on), and to improve things? Hope things are ok.

[hvert]

Can you help her out at home by pitching in with the chores more often? I would start there since that is the help she asked for. She may simply be overwhelmed and stressed. Does she ever have time to herself, without you or the child?

The introduction of a baby, precious as it is, into your lives is a definite game-changer. Its easy to become so overwhelmed with the added STUFF that goes with being a responsible parent that we lose track of what attracted us to the other. i hope your wife's feelings toward you are only a temporary reaction to the changes taking place. But it is not fair to you. I hope you can persuade her to find someone to facilitate discussion between you so that answers and resolutions can be found. You sound like a wonderful husband and father. Do not let the problem fester - i think communication is a key so many people never use. Take time to find someone you feel can be impartial to you both, a "referee" of sorts that will help you find useful communication that opens the keys to your wife's heart. Otherwise she may wake up too late to realize she lost a very special person. Tell her you remember the wonderful times before and ask her if she will help the two of you to find them again. If not for you or her than for the precious baby you have been blessed with - it is always better to have a loving home with a mom and dad. I hope you find your happiness again.