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Mar 31, 2015, 10:04 PM
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Today i broke up with my significant other because he does not understand my emotional state and just disregards the fact that i have mental health issues. It is very painful that he thinks that i just am making excuses for the problems we encounter in our relationship. I dont know how to get him to understand that the mental disorders are real and not just an excuse. He asks how can i be so intelligent and suffer from mental health issues, i just tell him that most people who suffer from mental health issues are very smart individuals that have problems within themselves that prevent them from making rational decisions and thinking the way someone with no disabilities. How can i get him to understand me or is it even worth the effort when he is not open to listen?
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Apr 01, 2015, 10:35 AM
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personally i dont think it is worth the effort if he is not willing to listen. some people are just too fixed in their judgement. my SO was like that and he really was harsh with me that i chose to take meds. he just refused to get it and tormented me and was very critical of my MI. i eventually broke up with him. it was sometime after that he finally apologized to me because he fell into a deep depression and finally understood how challenging mental health issues are. i finally felt vindicated. but he would have never understood if it didnt happen to him.
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Apr 02, 2015, 01:40 AM
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He should be intelligent enough to understand that intelligence has nothing to do with mental illness. I'm sorry you're going through this. Some people just aren't educated on mental health issues, because they have never experienced it, so they are very naïve and clueless about that subject. Which technically isn't his fault. He is just ignorant about it and coming across as offensive. If he refuses to understand what you're dealing with, then maybe it is for the best that you both go your separate ways.
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Apr 02, 2015, 02:19 AM
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I've never witnessed much, if any luck at all against willful ignorance.
People have to be willing to learn something new, its hard enough getting willing parties to understand what it's like for us, I can't imagine what a task it would be with someone who already has their mind made up. There's a world of information at his fingertips, yet he chooses to remain ignorant. I personally wouldn't bother.
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Apr 02, 2015, 03:05 AM
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I am sorry it must hurt but you made a right choice
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