[lesliey93]

I have this problem and I was wondering if anyone else goes thru this or if anyone knows of a way for me to change.
When ever I have a problem with someone or I'm trying to talk about my feelings or people around me I can't do it. Usually it's something emotional and I'll end up crying so I tend to shut down and end up not getting my point across. But it comes so easy for me to write them a text or a letter and let it all out to them like that. I would do this my whole life but it's starting to become a problem with my loved ones . They always get frustrated and tell me if you can tell me all of this thru a message or letter why didn't you tell me all of this when I was there in front of you. But I can't do it because I tend to be so emotional and cry or get mad and then they interrupt me so what I have to say doesn't come out how I wanted. They dont understand that this is my way of getting everything across without being interrupted. But I get that since its a text or letter they don't get the tone I'm telling them this and sometimes things get misinterpret. I want to change this , I want to be able to look at someone in the face and tell them everything I feel without thinking that me crying is gonna mess everything up and make me look weak. I want to be able to express myself like a normal person but I don't know how or where to start. I don't even know if there's such a thing as having a problem like this .

[kaliope]

i understand where you are coming from. i find it much easier to write what i need to say than say it in person,. i get too upset and lose track of what i want to say because the emotions get in the way and then people interrupt you and get all defensive and then there is the need to counteract. it is challenging to get my point across. i think maybe you could try writing it down and reading it to them.

[lesliey93]

Originally Posted by kaliope

i understand where you are coming from. i find it much easier to write what i need to say than say it in person,. i get too upset and lose track of what i want to say because the emotions get in the way and then people interrupt you and get all defensive and then there is the need to counteract. it is challenging to get my point across. i think maybe you could try writing it down and reading it to them.

That is actually a good idea , ima try that next time, thank you !!

[divine1966]

I am the same way. I grew up with parents who don't share feelings so it is tough for me too. I often start crying when I share

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Yes, it's totally a "thing" and pretty common. If you're feeling depressed, it can happen even if you're able to express strong feelings when you're not depressed.

If you grew up in a family where you weren't allowed to express anger and maybe weren't allowed to have certain thoughts or feelings without being told that "no, you don't like that" or "no, you don't feel that way" then when you become an adult and someone confronts you with strong feelings or you have strong feelings that you need to express, you often will "freeze" and start crying and not be able to say what you want to.

I think your writing is a very good idea, and it will probably help you to learn to express what you're thinking in the moment when it's happening. I give your family credit, too, for being willing to read the notes. Some families wouldn't do even that.

In my experience, it takes a lot of practice to learn to express yourself when in the presence of strong feelings if it's a problem for you. Years and years in my case, and I still can't always do it.