[Lildevil262626]

My boyfriend and I haven't been together very long (1+ yrs)
And we are hitting a...well, rough patch. As couples do.
I feel as though he isn't as serious about me as I'd like. Even though we are living together and I don't believe he has ever physically cheated on me, I just know his eyes wander and how flirtatious he is, and how sneaky he can be.
I told him I am uncomfortable with it and won't continue our relationship unless he stops the flirting and starts being more open and honest about these things. He just tells me I am over-exaggerating.
But our 'rough patch' is slowly starting to take over how I see our entire relationship.
He says he is serious about me and he cares about me, yet it is his actions and the 'little things' that have me convinced otherwise.
This year I have realized just how intense my abandonment issues are, as well as my trust. And I feel like that could be causing tension on my end.
He is not aware that I am in therapy and will soon be taking medication for OCD/depression/BPD (these are assumptions, yet to be diagnosed but getting close hopefully)
He is one of those people, unfortunately, who can't seem to grasp the concept that a person can be perfectly normal and also living with some sort of disorder that makes some things a little more complicated. Like emotions.
So I haven't been able to talk to him about this entire world, that I feel consumes me entirely at times, in fear of rejection or not being understood by the one person I want to talk too.
I don't know if our problems stem from him, or I, or us both. And I wonder if I should confide in him or just leave before I open up about my insecurities to him?
Maybe that will make him understand why I get the way I get, maybe it will bring us closer, but it has the potential to send him running as well.

[Rose76]

I don't think he's going to run because of any insecurity you reveal. But I also don't think he's going to treat you better because of you telling him any of this. If you stay with him, he is eventually going to know all, since you live together. He's not going to change his mind about what constitutes real psych problems, and that will make you feel invalidated.

[Lildevil262626]

Originally Posted by Rose76

I don't think he's going to run because of any insecurity you reveal. But I also don't think he's going to treat you better because of you telling him any of this. If you stay with him, he is eventually going to know all, since you live together. He's not going to change his mind about what constitutes real psych problems, and that will make you feel invalidated.

You are 100% right... And I think I knew this already and just need to hear it from someone else. I am who I am and he is who he is.
Thank you