[s4ndm4n2006]

Ok so I'm not all that into dating sites and have never met anyone I've found online, on a dating site anyway. But recently after I received some emails related to my OKC account, became curious about it. more like wth, why not play with it and see what happens?

After all I am, for the most part, happily single, a father and have no pressing needs to be with anyone. I am not lonely as a whole, although loneliness, at times, hits me momentarily. In other words, I'm ok if no one comes along, but it would be great if I find someone just as leisurely looking for someone to spend time with No desperation here and if anything, I lean towards continuing to be alone if I have to consider all the complexities of being in a love relationship.

So I finally went ahead and posted a profile. I was brutally honest and upfront about who I am. I do not believe in fakery or putting up a façade and acting like something/someone I am not. I don't even believe in embellishing on the truth in order to find a mate. Sure that works in the employment field and sometimes is necessary, but in that arena, you'll probably get a job where anything you embellished in your skills, you can learn, hone and improve on. In a relationship it doesn't work that way. If the person you are with is entirely different than the face they put up, its just going to come as a shock as the true colors of your mate come out and show themselves. Why even bother with a profile that is not truthful or exaggerated or "idealistic" if it's not your everyday self? Relationships are not a game for me but something to be taken seriously. Women are not toys, for my entertainment nor is a relationship something to be played around with while it remains fun. I don't do hook ups, I don't casually have sex with a hottie for the fun of it, even if I did have the chance. No point in it. Sex is fun but it's got it's place and is really a smaller part of the whole for me. It is necessary for true intimacy but not something that has to take up the majority of the relationship. but I digress.

I know that for the most part, as a geeky, intellectual, introverted and only somewhat masculine male, there will only be a few that even take an interest, but you know what? I'd take those 1 to 3 hits on my profile over any of the others that would hit on me because they expect someone I'm not.

thanks for listening to my rant/rave whatever you want to call it. I'm interested to know what you all think of this? How do you approach profiles on dating sites, honesty and all that?

[ididwhat?]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Ok so I'm not all that into dating sites and have never met anyone I've found online, on a dating site anyway. But recently after I received some emails related to my OKC account, became curious about it. more like wth, why not play with it and see what happens?

After all I am, for the most part, happily single, a father and have no pressing needs to be with anyone. I am not lonely as a whole, although loneliness, at times, hits me momentarily. In other words, I'm ok if no one comes along, but it would be great if I find someone just as leisurely looking for someone to spend time with No desperation here and if anything, I lean towards continuing to be alone if I have to consider all the complexities of being in a love relationship.

So I finally went ahead and posted a profile. I was brutally honest and upfront about who I am. I do not believe in fakery or putting up a façade and acting like something/someone I am not. I don't even believe in embellishing on the truth in order to find a mate. Sure that works in the employment field and sometimes is necessary, but in that arena, you'll probably get a job where anything you embellished in your skills, you can learn, hone and improve on. In a relationship it doesn't work that way. If the person you are with is entirely different than the face they put up, its just going to come as a shock as the true colors of your mate come out and show themselves. Why even bother with a profile that is not truthful or exaggerated or "idealistic" if it's not your everyday self? Relationships are not a game for me but something to be taken seriously. Women are not toys, for my entertainment nor is a relationship something to be played around with while it remains fun. I don't do hook ups, I don't casually have sex with a hottie for the fun of it, even if I did have the chance. No point in it. Sex is fun but it's got it's place and is really a smaller part of the whole for me. It is necessary for true intimacy but not something that has to take up the majority of the relationship. but I digress.

I know that for the most part, as a geeky, intellectual, introverted and only somewhat masculine male, there will only be a few that even take an interest, but you know what? I'd take those 1 to 3 hits on my profile over any of the others that would hit on me because they expect someone I'm not.

thanks for listening to my rant/rave whatever you want to call it. I'm interested to know what you all think of this? How do you approach profiles on dating sites, honesty and all that?

I've been on okc, and, if your profile is anything like your post, here... you ought to do just fine. Although... I think dating sites, especially okc, keep people dating... with the idea that there'll always be a better match, or match % out there. I call it the "bigger-better-more" syndrome.
I prefer honesty... even brutal honesty. I think you have a very healthy attitude about online dating sites... But, how do you know for sure if someone is truly honest until you invest the time to get to know them..? (that's almost a rhetorical question...). Good luck.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by ididwhat?

I've been on okc, and, if your profile is anything like your post, here... you ought to do just fine. Although... I think dating sites, especially okc, keep people dating... with the idea that there'll always be a better match, or match % out there. I call it the "bigger-better-more" syndrome.
I prefer honesty... even brutal honesty. I think you have a very healthy attitude about online dating sites... But, how do you know for sure if someone is truly honest until you invest the time to get to know them..? (that's almost a rhetorical question...). Good luck.

Thank you. I agree with your last statement, you don't. All one can do is be honest themselves and hope that with their honesty they will attract like minded individuals but you won't know that until you interact. I figure with putting it up front as I did, that I am being totally honest and know that this may mean less hits, it kind of sets it up for attracting people that would appreciate that too and therefore are likely more honest also

As for the percentage thing. it's all a façade. don't care about the percentages on okc or any other site. far too many times I've seen a high percent then when I read their profile it's like whaaat, no.. LOL I think it's all in reading profiles and then getting to know people that will be the determining factor in whether a match has been made

Thanks for your input!

[kindachaotic]

Think it's great you put yourself out there.
You were honest, that should help with process of elimination.
Just have fun with the curiousity of it all.
Have a friend on Match.com but no luck yet.