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May 24, 2015, 04:43 PM
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I was dating a guy for about a year but he needed to step back and deal with some of his own life stuff. I have two kids and a nightmare of an ex that doesn't do much with them so I am not sure if it was that. He says he cares and we still talk alot but I am having some issues and would like to share more. I really care for him and he is a great guy but I dont want to be too pushy either. I had a pretty bad marriage where there was some abuse but mostly verbal stuff so I am not real sure how to even do this.
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May 24, 2015, 11:43 PM
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ProudlyPersevering, how long do you anticipate it will take him to sort his life out? Does he give you the impression that he really wants to fight for your relationship or that he doesn't really care? Maybe it just might be better to move on.
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May 25, 2015, 12:10 PM
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When people ask for time off relationship it pretty much means they want out but are afraid to word that way. I'd move on. No way i sit and wait for him
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May 25, 2015, 05:09 PM
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New,
It seems he does but cannot meet all the obligations as this time. We talk pretty regularly and have seen each other just not as much as we had. I was having a hard time and when we talked a shared a bit. There was some really good support in that talk. I guess it is a time will tell thing. We did/do really seem to care and are good together. Thanks |
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May 26, 2015, 01:59 PM
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While I wouldn't blanketly make a statement that if someone wants time off from dating that they want out, it may be the case. I think there are other valid reasons for this but that being said, giving it time and him some space will reveal the truth of the matter. If he really just wants space and some time for now, he will be back. If he really wants out eventually things will go that way. In either case, if you're too insistent or impatient with it, at worst it will drive him away and at best it will make it harder for him to get past the time he is in.
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May 26, 2015, 03:45 PM
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S4andm4man I suppose it is true that time will tell. Thanks.
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May 26, 2015, 06:16 PM
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Making sure that you are in a good spot in your life is very important before you bring someone else in. That goes both ways. With so many people out there that lie and hide things, it makes us assume that most are that way. You only have control over you and yours. Make sure you are good and sufficient on your own, only then will you be able to make a wise decision on whom to choose as a partner in life.
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May 26, 2015, 06:30 PM
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I agree Nya! It is so important to care for yourself and be in the right place before you try to share with another. The lies are so hard. I dealt with that in my marriage and will not do it again. Thanks for the reminder.
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May 26, 2015, 06:38 PM
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It's not easy to do, but it is a must. I am having to put myself first after being in an emotionally abusive marriage for 5 years. I am setting up to go to a therapist before any decisions are made, so I know when I make them, I am making the right ones for me and my kids, no one else. Keep your head up, the right road is never the easy one
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