[jimmynipkins]

Yo.

So, here's my thing: About six months ago,I moved to Australia from the UK. I came out here with my partner, as we plan on traveling around Asia teaching English, and as such it was made clear to my parents that I wouldn't be coming back to the UK, potentially ever (except for occasional family visits and the like).

The issue is, bluntly, that my mum is limpet-standard clingy. I get more messages from her now than when I lived 10 miles away in the same city! She wants to know how I'm doing all the time, and tells me that she's worried about how I'm doing. I'm happy to oblige them occasional Skype calls, but I get requests several times a week. The bit that annoys me is the incessant...well, bugging.

Today did it for me. We chatted on Skype last night, although Britney party had much to say (plus it was 11pm where I am, and I was to tired for much chat), so I kept it brief. Then, today, I went on Facebook to find some four messages and a wall post from my mum trying to get hold of me (bear in mind I don't check Facebook much). She wanted to Skype and given how hard she was trying to get in touch I thought something was up - she'd even messaged my partner dating ' is *me* there? I can't seem to get hold of him!". Turned out she just wanted to chat because I had been tired and not talkative the night before. I still didn't have much to say, and neither did she. But she still wanted to chat nonetheless.

If you'll forgive the long post,I clearly needed to get stuff off my chest and rant.
Tl;dr: How do I politely get my mum t to give me space and not feel the need to check in with me every day? I want to tell her I have a life now and I'm not anyways minded to tell her every inane detail of what I do.

For what it's worth, I love my folks loads. But my mum is just getting on my nerves at the moment.

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by jimmynipkins

Yo.

(edited for brevity)

If you'll forgive the long post,I clearly needed to get stuff off my chest and rant.
Tl;dr: How do I politely get my mum t to give me space and not feel the need to check in with me every day? I want to tell her I have a life now and I'm not anyways minded to tell her every inane detail of what I do.

For what it's worth, I love my folks loads. But my mum is just getting on my nerves at the moment.

You could just remind her that while you love her and value the time you spend talking and catching up, you aren't going to be able to check in with her more than once or twice (or whatever seems reasonable for you at this time) per week and let her decide which days you will be contacting and by what means. If she resists, then you might just tell her that she can text, message, Facebook as much as she feels she needs to, but you will only have time to check and/or respond to her messages once or twice per week. Do you have siblings or other family with similar experiences with your mum?