[Sam0an]

Last Sunday while I was at Pride with my friends I received a call from my ex. I was surprised, just two nights ago she told me she wasn't in love with me any more but still wanted me in her life as a friend. I called her and poured my feelings out to her saying that our love was worth fighting for... She cried and hung up with out a good bye. Just a brief background, my ex is on Zoloft for anxiety but her depression seems to be creeping up again, thus causing some much friction in her life.

Any way, despite me being out I picked up and said "hey I'll call you back." Now I swore I heard her say okay. So later on about 6 hrs later once I was settled in I called. She didn't pick up. Called again 30 minutes later. She still didn't pick up. The next day I texted her in the afternoon letting her know I returned her call and I didn't blow her off.

Okay so here's the thing. My ex is all over the place with her emotions, so when she didn't pick up I figured she was having a rough night. That's understandable. That's why I texted her the next day.

She responds saying she's sorry she wasn't able to pick up because she was out, she never meant to call me in the first place but she mentioned how happy she was I went out with friends to pride and called me by my nickname..

Four red flags popped up in my head to make me believe she's lying. First one is, she rarely accidently calls me. And when she does its a butt call so when I answer she won't respond or even know I'm on the phone. This time she answered and was on the phone and responded to me.

Red flag number two, when I said to her "hey I'll call you back" and she said "okay" why didn't she respond or text me saying "no need to call me back, I called you by accident." I would think that would be the logical thing to do if these circumstances were true.

Red flag number three, my ex has acted like this before due to her anxiety. If she has something to get off her chest and I may be really busy, by the time I'm available to give her my undivided attention she's not comfortable with talking any more or doesn't think her words are important any more. (6hrs until I call back would give an anxious person more than enough time to rethink their thoughts.) So this sticks out as a red flag to me.

Last flag, it was a Sunday night. My ex rarely goes out at night because she doesn't feel safe and it makes her anxious. She just recently had surgery on her shoulder so by 10 she's drugged up and ready for bed, or too high to move and she can not drive with her healing arm therefore she would've had no transportation.

Now her excuse could very well be true. If so she had more than enough times to contact me and say it was an accident then to wait for me to contact her after three attempts to explain this. It doesn't sit right with me, what do y'all think? Could this been an act driven by her anxiety? That what it semms like to me...

I may be thinking to deep, but I know her. She's not emotionally stable, two nights before I had just poured my feelings out saying I was willing to fight for us once she became healthy and healed. This would give someone a lot to think about. Ie, a reason to call someone two days later with something to say. Idk...

[~Christina]

Since cellphones are advanced now and most are touch screen I find it highly unlikely that a " butt dialing " still happens.

Depressed and on meds or not. I would stay away from her.

[hannabee]

From this post and your other one, I still think she is having difficulty with her feelings because of the Zoloft. You are just going to have to stand back but keep your eyes open about her activities. Don't be stalker like, but check on her. IDK this is a hard one. Are you on good terms with her family and are they aware of everything that's going on?

[Sam0an]

Originally Posted by hannabee

From this post and your other one, I still think she is having difficulty with her feelings because of the Zoloft. You are just going to have to stand back but keep your eyes open about her activities. Don't be stalker like, but check on her. IDK this is a hard one. Are you on good terms with her family and are they aware of everything that's going on?

@hannabee yes I'm and very good with her family. Sadly her step mom doesn't really understand the severity of a mental illness so if I contact her asking for an update, she's bound to just look at the surface. She doesn't go in depth. Her sister however fully understands, but she is 16 and not too stable herself and I would rather not confront a minor on her sisters conditions given that she has shown to emotionally swing from one end of the pendulum to another and I fear my questions may have an effect on her mentally while addressing her sisters condition. I will not stalk her tho. Worst case scenario if she does not openly speak to me about it, I'll talk to her step mom. Thank you for the advice.