[krisakira]

My husband has expressed that he doesn't need me as much as I need him. So he will not give me the affection I need, only the affection that he needs. It hurts me a lot. I've told him my needs and he does not give them to me. I want to be called beautiful and that he loves me. I want him to come up to me and give me a hug. He says that since I have been doing all the affection that it doesn't give him an opportunity to give me affection.. so I stopped giving him affection, and during that time he did not give me any affection. It doesn't help that he texts his female friends all the time. There's one lady who he worked with 22 years ago who recently got in touch with him. Twice now it's affected our "us" time. The first time, I wanted him to come to me on the couch and snuggle with me. But he said his phone cord wouldn't reach to my side of the couch so he couldn't be cause he was text messaging that lady. The second time it bothered me was when I asked him to cuddle with me and during that, he started texting his friend. I told him a new rule- if we are cuddling or having us time, no texting other people. It really bothered me. Last night I had a dream that two women were leaning on my husband on the couch and he didn't think it was a problem, but I was yelling at them to get off my husband. I think this resembles real life, because these women he talks to come to him for support and are "leaning" on him. And he is neglecting me. I feel so sad. I don't know what to do.

[CANDC]

Some people at this stage of a relationship choose therapy or counseling to try to repair the relationship before it goes to a place where irreparable harm is done.

[Rose76]

He has no business texting these women at all. These aren't healthy friendships. This is a form of cheating.

[healingme4me]

I agree about couples counseling.