[lipstickjunkiexo]

So i met this guy at this bar. I went out with a good friend of mine and this guy came over and sat beside us and was talking to us. He seemed really nice and laidback. He was talking to me asking me a bunch of questions about myself. Of course i was being wild and rambling on. I was having a crappy night. A lot of things came back to me about my partner and how he's hurt me in our relationship. So when i was asked if i was in a relationship i said i was but things were complicated. My boyfriend basically told me that's loke saying im single. Im too blunt when im drinking i guess. Anyways he asked me why i was with him im so unhappy. And i told him because i love him. He told me he still wants to be friends and gave me his number. He never hit on me. Or crossed any boundaries in my opinion. But boyfriend is worried about it. Maybe he's just a genuinely nice guy who is a good listener and wants to meet new people? Or maybe he's hoping things will go sour tween me and my man? I know some guys act like they care so they can try to get laid. But im sort of oblivious to this kind of stuff honestly. He wants to take me to a show and he said he was going to buy my ticket. He also asked if he wanted to hang out before hand. Hes picking me up? I asked my boyfriend before even responding to him out of respect. I also told him that he hasn't crossed any lines. But i guess you never know what someones intentions are right? I have had a lot of guy friends in the past who tried to get with me. So im just wondering what peoples opinions are on this issue. He also knows me and my partner have been having issues and he said if i ever needed someone to talk to he was a great listener.

[CANDC]

Your boyfriend may just feel insecure that you appear to be out on lookout for opportunities or if you are not, you are not sending them running.

Do you have a committed relationship that you both want or is he the one hoping things will work out?

He also knows me and my partner have been having issues and he said if i ever needed someone to talk to he was a great listener.

This is a pickup line in my playbook. In other words when you are ready to dump your man, call him and he will listen for the cues so that he can take you around the block.

[~Christina]

You don't know that guy. He isn't asking if you and your boyfriend want to hang out, So I doubt he is just looking for a "friend".

Maybe you and your boyfriend need to have a talk about the state of your relationship.

Good luck and Welcome to PC

[healingme4me]

He was giving a woman who claimed to have a complicated, struggling relationship his number, agreeing to pay her way to a show to hang out sometime.

In theory, of course men and women can be just friends.

[hvert]

It sounds like he is trying to pick you up to me...

[divine1966]

Certainly men and women can be friends. But I am yet to hear of any single men hanging out in bars passing phone numbers to women in hopes of being friends. Lol I think you are a bit naive

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[Ganganthefatman]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Lol I think you are a bit naive

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Well, there's certainly no need to be rude about it.

But I agree nonetheless. This guy's just got some game.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Ganganthefatman

Well, there's certainly no need to be rude about it.

But I agree nonetheless. This guy's just got some game.

How is that rude? I myself am often naive when it comes to people because I always think everybody is trying to do the right thing and is honest and has no secret agendas. Yes most people are honest but Unfortunately not everyone. I am always laughing at myself being gullible

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[Ganganthefatman]

Originally Posted by divine1966

How is that rude? I myself am often naive when it comes to people because I always think everybody is trying to do the right thing and is honest and has no secret agendas. Yes most people are honest but Unfortunately not everyone. I am always laughing at myself being gullible

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My bad, that's just the way it sounded in my head.

[llleeelllaaannneee]

Given that you met in a bar, he asked you out (not you and boyfriend) and said he'd pay I'd consider it a date. If a guy did those things and didn't consider it a date I'd be seriously annoyed. I definitely think hetero men and women can be friends but this isn't sounding like that type of situation.

You said he asked you a lot of questions, did you ask him about himself?

I agree that it may be a good time to talk to the bef about relationship.

[lipstickjunkiexo]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Certainly men and women can be friends. But I am yet to hear of any single men hanging out in bars passing phone numbers to women in hopes of being friends. Lol I think you are a bit naive

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I'm not going to deny I'm naive about men. It's hard to be able to figure out someone's intentions when they make themselves out to be a great guy who's trying to be your friend.