[Rino]

I'm mostly an introvert. I spend the majority of my time alone and that is the way I like it. I don't like the thought that i'm going to be spending my own money on the woman tonight. I like spending it on myself. Books, video games, music, whatever. I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Yeah, sometimes I get lonely but that feeling goes away. I just don't know what to do.

[l00king4answers79]

Idk, you've already made the plans you should just follow through. Then tell her you don't want to pursue the relationship.

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[Rino]

I know I should just follow through with our plans but I really don't want to. Then that makes me look like a jerk.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

It is better to give than receive, and if you have made a date it is unkind to cancel at short notice.

[Trippin2.0]

Why did you even agree to go on a date if the thought of spending money on someone else, is in and of itself, so off putting to you?


I would suggest you pursue friendships instead of dates to address your loneliness. They don't require you to spend money on others, and they don't require the same level of commitment. With friendships you'll still have plenty of alone time to spend as you wish.


Unless of course you didn't mean general loneliness, and meant specifically the romantic kind....


Then I would say, you have a choice to make. Choose to accept that dating requires time and money, or choose to deal with the loneliness.


Free will and all that


Ps. I concur, it would be rude to cancel, one date won't kill you.

[Rino]

I ended up going on that date. I actually had a pretty good time! I was driving home from the date and I could tell something was wrong with her. She told her she didn't feel feel like there was a spark. Kind of a bummer.