[MetsAreTheBest]

I've always been socially awkward and shy.. and of course the first woman I ever really wanted ended up being either just as crazy as me, or completely uninterested (and my mental issues caused her unneeded problems with her jerk on-again-off-again manipulative/controlling boyfriend)..

So now I'm looking to rebound and move on, but I still find myself looking for hope in the situation.. which isn't good because I've had some paranoia issues.. It's not that I'm paranoid she's going to show up one day, I'm paranoid that I'm getting hurt again and of having her ex-boyfriend in my life for any reason whatsoever. The more I get out the more I see there are many women out there, but I'm also afraid of costing myself a chance with her.. if, for example, she was in a bad relationship.

I'm just not sure how to move on, and since I'm shy/introverted anyway, it's tough.

Any advice?

[healingme4me]

If she hasn't stepped away from a bad relationship, yet, then it could be a long time if ever. She'd need to be her own hero, on that one.

[MetsAreTheBest]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

If she hasn't stepped away from a bad relationship, yet, then it could be a long time if ever. She'd need to be her own hero, on that one.

Na, this guy was a pure coward, he got in my head early on.. part of my paranoia problems were from him making me think that he (and other bad people) were playing 'Wilfred' with my life. Just the thought of people being involved in my life and trying to influence me while being cowards and hiding behind a facade is extremely upsetting to me for some reason.. but that's exactly what he was doing. He was playing the part of 'buddy' while being a two-faced, manipulative coward.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by MetsAreTheBest

Na, this guy was a pure coward, he got in my head early on.. part of my paranoia problems were from him making me think that he (and other bad people) were playing 'Wilfred' with my life. Just the thought of people being involved in my life and trying to influence me while being cowards and hiding behind a facade is extremely upsetting to me for some reason.. but that's exactly what he was doing. He was playing the part of 'buddy' while being a two-faced, manipulative coward.

He became your friend while you dated her?

[MetsAreTheBest]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

He became your friend while you dated her?

He was a former roommate and best friends with my roommate at the time.. It never got to the actual 'dating' phase because either I was being crazy or because he and his best bud were messing with my head. Pretty much just lots of missed opportunities and regrets.

[healingme4me]

Then probably the more fish in the sea outlook offers more hope than wondering what if about the exgf of your former roommate.