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Jul 21, 2015, 10:42 AM
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Can't remember how long it's been since I last posted on here. But nothing has changed. Its like I've been stuck in the same situation for years. I try and try to get my wife to want to be more involved with me and her as a couple, and it's like living with a house mate and a child.
I am the father to my son and she is the mother. And that is where it ends. The closest we get is a kiss goodbye when off to work. I can't take it much longer. I even tried to shock her the other day when we had a small argument. She said something like "because I am your wife" and my response was "you won't be for much longer if you carry on the way you are." To which she replied "why?" And I said "the same reason we always have this same talk". And then she just sighed and said "I know". So if you know, then why don't you do something about it to try to make your husband feel wanted and loved??? It makes no sense. Why is it always me putting in all the effort and getting nothing back?! I know I've gained weight but apparently that's not the issue either. I just feel worthless. Like I only matter to my son. Like the only reason I stick around is for him to have some form of "normality". Maybe when he is old enough to understand then I will find true happiness. Or I'll be dead from the stress and loneliness. Sorry. Vent over.
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#2
Jul 21, 2015, 10:46 AM
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Well you're unhappy. You're lashing out at her. Something needs to be done ASAP.
Have you tried counseling? Have a professional try to help figure out what the problem is. Plenty of couples do this. If that doesn't work, then don't spend the rest of your life being miserable, even for your son's sake. If you don't love your wife anymore and just see her as a housemate, and counseling hasn't helped, divorce seems like your best option.
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Jul 21, 2015, 11:01 AM
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I agree with JaGo, counseling or couples therapy could be very helpful. I feel sad for you that you don't feel wanted and loved in your marriage. I hope you can do some therapy , at least you can say you tried it.
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Jul 21, 2015, 05:07 PM
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Thanks guys. I have been recommended for cbt for my own issues, but if I'm honest, I can't see her going for any form of therapy or counselling. I should probably just man up and accept the are people in worse situations than myself.
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Jul 21, 2015, 05:43 PM
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Was she like this before the wedding?
Why wouldn't she go to therapy? What mother wouldn't want to commit to trying to make a go at it, for a good example for their child? |
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Jul 21, 2015, 06:20 PM
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She was but she promised it would get better. That was 6 years ago
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Jul 22, 2015, 09:43 AM
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Quote:
 Best of luck, Jake
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