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Old Jul 22, 2015, 08:15 PM
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I had a falling out with a neighbor after I stuck up for myself and made her aware I was tired of her controlling ways. We still wave, begrudgingly, and have remained friends on Facebook but rarely speak. Once in a while she will acknowledge my posts on Facebook, but completely ignores me 95% of the time even though she is on there spying all the time. I posted a picture of some family with a comment about seeing the Minions movie. A week later, she shared a photo of a Minion with a mean quote on the Minion photo about how wonderful it is when lousy people disappear from your life. Of course, that could have been directed at any of the 300 people she is friends with on Facebook. But part of me feels it's a passive aggressive attack against me. Am I being paranoid? Should I just ignore it? Should I find a Minion photo to share with a mean quote about not caring what jerks think? Or should I unfriend her and be rid of her for good (which would make the neighborhood a little tense but oh well)? Please give me your honest thoughts, I need advice as I sometimes have a tendency to be a little paranoid and jump off the deep end over things that really are not threats. Thanks for your help.
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Old Jul 22, 2015, 09:04 PM
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Can you put her in a special category so she doesn't see your posts? I did that with a coworker I didn't like but who would have been really difficult if I'd unfriended her. And maybe unfollow her posts and set up your browser so you can't go looking at her page? Maybe those are too great lengths to take, but I would rather do that than make a bad neighbor situation worse... maybe I am too conflict averse
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 02:43 AM
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Facebook is going to be the downfall of the man kind I swear....

If you don't really get along and her posts make you question if its directed at you and/or upset you then just block and delete her, you wont have to see anything anymore,

Rather simple solution since you and her really aren't "friends"

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Old Jul 23, 2015, 03:36 AM
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block her posts.

I also would like to add what if it was directed at you? DO you really care what this woman thinks? Do you want to stoop to her level? I mean in the grand scheme of things what does her being petty really matter?

I have a mantra for stuff like that and it's "Water off a duck's butt." just let it roll off you because what people say about you really doesn't matter. What matters is what you think of yourself. Love you and be good to you and forget what this neighbor says or implies.
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 03:40 AM
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Unfriend her. There is no good reason to continue this with her.
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 05:03 AM
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 02:09 PM
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What I don't understand is that, if you two are not even friends, why does she even get to you?


Why care about what she posts on her stupid wall at all?


I have an old HS friend I kept unfriending and she kept re-requesting... When I eventually blocked her, she called me and that lead me to adding her again!

Now why this was awkward for me is way more than the obvious... She was my bff for most of HS.


Anyway, after the third or fourth attempt at unfriending and blocking, I just clicked on "hide all posts" and voila!


She can see what I post and pretend we're actually still friends, altho, truth be told idk if she does or even cares to, but I DON'T have to acknowledge her existence.

At all.

And I don't have to keep having awkward convos about why she didn't make the cut when I was cleaning out my friends list.
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 03:40 PM
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She only does it to get a rise, ignore it and move on.
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 04:14 PM
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I would just ignore it. If it keeps happening then block her posts. Making a passive aggressive attack back is not going to help. I would try to keep things civil, especially since she's someone you have to see.
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Old Jul 23, 2015, 07:52 PM
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You all are right......maybe the problem lies more with me. I can make it so I don't have to see her stuff, I just can't keep my curiosity in check and stay off her page. Guess that's why they say curiosity killed the cat.
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Old Jul 24, 2015, 01:14 AM
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Those minion memes are all over FB. I must see 10 different ones a day, so no, I don't think it was pointed at you. Just unfriend her and be done with it. The trick with having a positive FB experience is to keep the people on there you enjoy; leave the rest off.
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Old Jul 24, 2015, 01:36 AM
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First, I would unfollow her. Then I would wait a month or two. Then I would unfriend her. Or put her in a category that does not have full access to your facebook posts.

You eliminate a lot of stress just by unfollowing people on facebook. That's what I've found anyway. They stop buzzing around inside your head, and you firget about them. Eventually, I believe they decide to unfollow you. That gets you where you want to be.

Considering how much personal stuff is on facebook, I don't get why anyone wants to be friends with anyone other than family and real genuine friends. Or avail yourself of the option to put those you really want to be connected with inside if a designated group that are the only ones who see most of what you post.
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