[Shadix]

If I feel excluded or disrespected I get upset. It is most likely because of my history of being a social outcast during my school years. But on the outside, I will never express this. I will pretend I am good. But I've been thinking about interactions with a female work friend lately, and I have realized that it is very likely my hypersensitivity is showing and that it is off putting.

So where do I go from here? Is it possible to change a hypersensitive personality? Or am I instead supposed to learn how to conceal it better? I am not really wanting to be disliked by girls, so something obviously has to change.

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by Shadix

If I feel excluded or disrespected I get upset. It is most likely because of my history of being a social outcast during my school years. But on the outside, I will never express this. I will pretend I am good. But I've been thinking about interactions with a female work friend lately, and I have realized that it is very likely my hypersensitivity is showing and that it is off putting.

So where do I go from here? Is it possible to change a hypersensitive personality? Or am I instead supposed to learn how to conceal it better? I am not really wanting to be disliked by girls, so something obviously has to change.

You recognized there is something wrong that's good start, but you're going about it wrong by labelling your circumstances as a personal flaw.

You are responsible of your own feelings and how you use it in regards to your surroundings, but impressioning yourself unto others. Like you've mentioned your feelings coming out. Is not entirely your fault you should be already aware that you want people to see the good in you so you try to show that off to others. Rather take that feelings trying to show you're a good person and let that just be another reflection of you.

Realize these people don't owe you anything for them to take notice to you is their choice and you sometimes deal with it or make yourself louder at appropriate times don't be to overwhelming and push it on others they will back away.

I'm in your shoes as well but unlike you I don't care what place I am I only get upset when people try to come in my life to mess with me and do me wrong. I lost interest in trying to worrying when ignored or left out. People disrespect me I let them sometimes I use it to make then foolish. At last I don't really know how to help. I don't even know of I'm right but yeah that's all.

[shezbut]

I am hypersensitive as well, and I really do not think that it is something that can be changed. Instead, we have to learn how to cope with our deep emotions and determine what the appropriate "wise mind" response should be.

It takes time, repetition, and effort for us to 1.) validate our emotions YET 2.) respond appropriately. Sometimes, an appropriate response involves our emotions. The trick is getting to know how our brain works. I recommend going to DBT, personally. It has worked very well for me! Rather than me constantly repressing my thoughts and emotions, I've learned how to use both sides to help me make wise decisions.

Very best wishes sent your way!

DBT Self Help

Originally Posted by Shadix

If I feel excluded or disrespected I get upset. It is most likely because of my history of being a social outcast during my school years. But on the outside, I will never express this. I will pretend I am good. But I've been thinking about interactions with a female work friend lately, and I have realized that it is very likely my hypersensitivity is showing and that it is off putting.

So where do I go from here? Is it possible to change a hypersensitive personality? Or am I instead supposed to learn how to conceal it better? I am not really wanting to be disliked by girls, so something obviously has to change.

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I can relate to what you wrote to some degree. I've been a social outcast and somewhat of a recluse at times.

Anyways, what do you do that makes you seem hypersensitive? What do you do when you get upset? Do you confront that person and let them know that you're upset, or do you just kind of withdraw and give them the silent treatment?

Has anyone ever told you that you tend to overreact to things, or that you're to sensitive, or that they think you take things to personally? What do you think that you're doing that might be off putting to other people?

[Shadix]

Originally Posted by Shy Introvert

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I can relate to what you wrote to some degree. I've been a social outcast and somewhat of a recluse at times.

Anyways, what do you do that makes you seem hypersensitive? What do you do when you get upset? Do you confront that person and let them know that you're upset, or do you just kind of withdraw and give them the silent treatment?

Has anyone ever told you that you tend to overreact to things, or that you're to sensitive, or that they think you take things to personally? What do you think that you're doing that might be off putting to other people?

I will never react or confront the person because I don't want them to know I am hypersensitive. But I think it just shows in my mannerisms and facial expression that I am hurt even when I try to hide it.

Originally Posted by Shadix

I will never react or confront the person because I don't want them to know I am hypersensitive. But I think it just shows in my mannerisms and facial expression that I am hurt even when I try to hide it.

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Same here. It really sucks to have this issue in a world to where being sensitive is mostly seen as a sign of weakness, ugh! And it doesn't help that the majority of people in life tend to be selfish and insensitive most of the time.

Try to remember that it's not always about you. Some people just don't care about your feelings. Those people should be avoided at all costs for your own sanity.

I'm not saying this woman is that way at all, but try to avoid being around triggers and limit your interaction with people who are insensitive or who don't care about your feelings as much as possible. It works for me.