[SpoopyPumpkin]

I don't even know if i want her as a friend at this point... She obsesses over middle aged teachers all the time. She always is rolling her eyes at what I say and says my problems are not serious. She goes on speels about her new obsession just about everyday and when I try to get a word in otherwise she will completely ignore me, and if I don't respond she calls me very rude names. She'll say she's smarter than me and better than me all the time. Recently her and her family have told me I am not smart enough to take certain classes at school just because she isn't in them. All of her other friends hate me. They tell me to kill myself and she doesn't say a word to them. Every time that I get to the point of ending our friendship she does or says something really nice and it makes me feel really guilty. I know that she is a good person but she can be very hurtful without knowing it... My other best friend stopped talking to her because she felt abused by her. I just don't know what to do...

[Trippin2.0]

Walk away.

A good person she certainly is not, she's mean and abusive. Hall mark trait of an abusive person is that they know how to say all the right nice things to make their victims believe they are actually good people.

Good friends don't treat you as inferior, they treat you as an equal, good friends don't discourage you, they encourage you to do the best you can. Good friends don't belittle you and invalidate your problems, they listen, empathize and support you.

The "friend" you have described is toxic, don't allow her to poison you.
Life is challenging enough without us having to give people permission to treat us badly.

Follow your best friend's good, healthy example and just walk away from this person.

Walking away doesn't mean you're a bad person, or any other negative thing you may believe when you feel guilty.

Walking away means you're smart enough to value yourself.

[divine1966]

Wow you don't need her in your life. Stir away please

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[A Red Panda]

She's a good person? How? What evidence is there?

If your basis for that is how she'll be nice to you when you express your feelings of leaving... that's manipulation. That is all that is.

Nice people don't behave the way she does. She's almost certainly aware of her behaviour.

For me... the decision would be clear. I'd be gone.

[Fuzzybear]

I'd be gone ....

[hannabee]

Most people do KNOW when they are being hurtful! Please walk away. You deserve better. I have walked from a few friends and I know it is not easy, but when it is affecting your self worth, it is time. Who, that is a nice person, calls a friend names???? Not in my world and it shouldn't be in yours.

[lovethesun]

I agree with the others comments. This person is an abuser.....a classic abuser! Meaning once she senses that you are getting ready to take a stand for yourself by leaving her, she turns on the manipulator button with niceness to make you think it's in your head and really not her. This person is the devil in disguise. And that's exactly what the devil is.......the Master of Lies and Deceit. The proof is in the feelings you have. How do you feel after dealing with this person?......you feel terrible. That's your gut instinct telling you this person is bad. I say cut ties with this person immediately and expect there may be some negative blow back from this person, but just ignore it. I'm in the process of walking away from a toxic person in my life and it's hard, but some things have to be done for the sake of your own happiness and internal peace.