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Aug 22, 2015, 09:53 AM
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My birthday was Yesterday. I was hoping ANYONE would remember. But no one did. My boyfriend Didn't remember, Should I tell him it was yesterday? I didn't hint that it was my birthday the previous days really, i just asked him if he had yesterday off. which is something i don't really do, he doesn't like to talk about work. he is a sensitive person and i don't want him to feel bad because he didn't remember. So should i just let it go? Or tell him it was yesterday? We have a long distance relationship btw.
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Aug 22, 2015, 10:47 AM
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hell......HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!
   I am not really sure how I would handle this....some people just forget things like this, it's how they are and also it's not like you were throwing obvious hints or saying straight out that it was your birthday....and then he forgot. I think if you do bring it up, be playful about it yet get your message across. I don't think you should not say anything at all and let it go....that might make him feel even worse if he does find out and some time has passed, maybe asking you why you didn't say anything. I don't know if you talk daily or not but it's the weekend....maybe say in passing if he talks to you and ask if you have plans...you could always come up with something like " It was my birthday yesterday, I am thinking that I would like to do something special for it....just not sure what just yet"............take it from there. Hope this helps a little bit.
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Aug 22, 2015, 12:37 PM
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I would do whatever will make YOU feel less bad. For me, that would be not bringing up the subject at all. It may be different for you.
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Aug 22, 2015, 12:58 PM
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Did your boyfriend ever know when your Birthday was ?
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Aug 23, 2015, 09:31 PM
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How long have you two been together? Is this a pattern of his to forget things about you or is it his first time? My brother once forgot my birthday and he obviously knows me longer than your BF knows you. It was not a big deal. I know he loves me. He was just stressed at work
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Aug 26, 2015, 11:27 AM
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Aug 28, 2015, 12:28 PM
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Aug 28, 2015, 06:56 PM
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Has your relationship ever been anything other than long distance? I don't think you can expect a long distance relationship to be good with stuff like this.....I mean really you live your live where you live & he's involved in his life where he's living & a long distance relationship is pretty much just that....it's a relationship when you are communicating with each other & most of the time you don't even know what they are doing any other time in their life....it's not personal like living in the same town. I had a long distance relationship when I was in High School (years ago)......we were LOL...even talking about marriage after we did get a chance to get together. That following summer, I got a letter letting me know that he got married right out of high school......that was when I realized that with a long distance relationship, we NEVER really know the other person. Honestly I wouldn't be hurt by it. Know it would have been nice if he had remembered, but think this is an indicator that you need to be looking at....if he had an interest in when your birthday was, he would have made a note of it or he would have asked.....seems like an indicator of just how much interest he really doesn't have in the over all emotional part of the relationship....more of an acquaintance than a real emotionally intimate relationship......maybe time for a reality check???? I do hope that you were able to celebrate & have a happy birthday in spite of not getting a birthday wish from him. 
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