[kymbersix2015]

Hello:

I am new here, I just joined today. I am needing some help in the beginning treatment of being in a codependent/narcissistic "online" relationship that just ended. My head is full of past memories of him, things he has said, and some harsh emails he sent to me. I can't help to think I'm to blame since I'm the one who has been emailing him for many months. He responds, but always sucks me in to his depression problems, or is very nice to me and we try to smooth things out but to no avail. I can't focus at work or even at home and I have isolated myself from my friends and deleted facebook. Has anyone been through this? What are the remedies? I've tried turning to spirituality, but I think its "out there" and taking me away from reality. I need help.

[kaliope]

hi kymbersix
you cannot imagine how many people who have been through this in one form or another. you are so not alone. are you able to find an IRL person for support? any hobbies to focus on? something to divert your attention to something else? once you make five posts here, you can go into the chat rooms and make friends. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[Sesiley]

If you no longer wish to be in the relationship, block him.

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[brainhi]

The brain can really do some wild things. You more or less got "addicted" to someone you never met in person - a fantasy (it's not always a good thing). Your mind and your exchanges with him are holding you hostage - in your head. You get to take control of your thoughts. One of the best things to do... is stop thinking about him! Read a book, go to the movies,... I don't know - whatever you can do to stop thinking about him. The more you do dwell the more you keep him alive in your thoughts.

Time really does help - if you try you will think about him less and less. A therapist can help you learn how to not fall into those traps.

Glad you found us - Welcome - lots of good things going on here. I've come here to focus my thoughts on other things when the bull is bogging me down - helps me.

[Ruftin]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central kymbersix!!! It's nice to meet you. You have joined a community of warm and caring members who will want to offer you support and advice. Yours is welcome as well.

Please feel free to contact any community liaison or moderator by left clicking on their name in blue to the left of their post if you need help navigating the forums. It will take some time for your first five posts to appear as they are being evaluated and then you will be able to join chats.

I'm sorry for your struggles. You'll find we have a safe and supportive community. I'm glad you've joined us.

I look forward to seeing you around!!!

[francisR]

Hi Kymber

It is very difficult to cope up with the relationship where someone is trying to suck you into his depression. Build you up by being nice and then pulls you down with his depression. That kind of instability is very bad for dealing with depression. So you would be well rid of him. Have you considered medication? Or a good therapist to give you the skills to successfully manage this problem.

Religion and belief in God has really helped me with depression. Have you got any good friends that can support you at this time? I really hope and pray everything does get much better for you soon. Have a great day. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis

[Fuzzybear]

Block him.

Keep posting here, many including me understand your pain.

[CANDC]

Hi kymbersix. Welcome to Psych Central. Sorry you went through any abusive relationship that is difficult to get over. Self care is one way to start the healing process. This can include a therapist as well as mindfulness(right here and now), exercise and yoga, eating healthy diet and eliminating stressors from our life.

Here is a forum that might be of interest. Relationships & Communication - Forums at Psych Central

Many people here at PC find they can share these feelings and what they are going through with the confidence that people go through similar things and can empathize. So many forums are offered as well as Chatrooms (after you have 5 posts or comments on others posts). Anxiety Support Chat is at 8PM EST Wednesday and Depression Support Chat is at 9pm EST on Thursday.

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