[8thstreetbungalow]

So I recently had a close friend stop talking to me and i've been sent out hell bent trying to make new friends to replace my close friend i lost. She's a female (obviously since i said she) so I am trying to find someone who is also femae as i have plenty of guy friends and its just not the same.

The problem is we were pretty close even considered dating but things just didnt work out and it just wasnt the right time. She then started dating someone i introduced to her and now shes not single and not talking to me. Other things are going on aswell and i am completely in the dark! That is just some background because i think its important to state. So i guess i want that same emotional connection i had with her with someone else but i think the fact i recently lost her is making me hell driven to get it and get it fast. I think i am pushing people away before i ever get a chance to truly get to know them or get comfortable.

Its like i get a conversation going and want it to continue then i paint a fantasy and revolve around my own world. Its hard for me to sit down and stay realistic (You could say). So my question is, what are good ways to overcome a "romantic" relationship. She is the closest i've ever had to one before and i was wondering is this just something that gets better and easier in time?

Also, I need advice on Que's when it comes to recognizing someone isn't interested in talking. I struggle with this and aways have. I think if someone responds they want to keep chatting, so i keep chatting. Then sometimes people want me to keep chatting but i think they don't. I have a terrible problem figuring this one out.

[lostinwilderness]

Many people do that Hayla. I do that as well i.e. fantasizing and creating my own world of imagination in which everything works out perfectly.It is one of the go-to responses when you are anxious about something for all that it doesn't often work very well.

Again, this is merely my opinion, my interpretation of things from the tidbits I've gotten from you and liable to being completely wrong. If so or if it brings up bad memories/feelings, I deeply apologize for that.
As for connections, a genuine connection tends to grow very slowly. There is simply no rushing it. You may not be pushing people away only due to rush as much as pushing potential friendships away because you fear what the (eventual/possible) loss of it will do to you. This however is something you can change with time if you wish to.

As for advice on recognizing cues, I'm afraid I am equally lost there. I do however wish you luck in your endeavors. May you find many good friends to surround you.