What to Do?

Hello. I am in a fairly new relationship, and I believe that God has put us together. We share similar ideals and values, and he's overall a great guy, with some issues (But who doesn't have issues? Am I right?). We are already saying "I love you", and I feel it genuinely. It's odd for me to get so attached so quickly, but I feel like there was definitely some divine intervention at play here. When I met him, I was praying for strength to move on and - if I was not to be with the guy I was in love with - that God show me someone else, someone I was meant to be with. And I met him. He's sweet, respectful, Christian, and so much more. But here's the problem. I'm a Pre-Med student, which is great. Medicine is my passion, and I've wanted to be a surgeon/doctor for nearly a decade. It's been the one thing I was sure of in life. However, and I don't know how familiar you all will be with this, he has a disease called cystic fibrosis, and his doctors estimate that he only has about ten years left. So, do the math... I'll be in school the whole time, dedicated to long hours of studying, without much time for "us". So, he's asked that I consider other career possibilities (i.e., PA). I came up with the idea to be a nurse, but giving up my dream is still a bit unsettling to me. I do love him and want to spend as much time with him as possible. So, if it was you, what would you do? I've been praying, and I think I've made my decision (Be a nurse...), but I just want some additional feedback. Thanks!

If it were me, I would want to support you through your schooling so you get your doctorate regardless of how long I had. So my vote is for you to continue in your med school and career dream.

Continue on your career path. Nothing wrong with being a nurse or PA but if that's not your dream, don't do that. I wouldn't jeopardize my career plans for any man and wouldn't expect anyone to do that for me. Especially not for a man you just met and aren't formally committed to. I wish you the best

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I think that this really important decision would be best discussed with a professional counselor, in addition to praying. God has put people with professional skills on earth for good reason.

How long have you been with your boyfriend?

I am the most concerned that he actually asked you to make different career plans. You two aren't married and haven't known each other long enough yet he already requests huge sacrifices from you. Honestly that would be a red flag

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I noticed that you've only included two options in your poll. What year are you in in college? Is just staying in pre-med for now an option? If you're in your first or second year, won't you be gaining knowledge that will be useful if you decide to become a nurse or PA as well?

Doctors are not God, no matter how brilliant they are, they don't really get to decide these things. Your bf may live for another few decades, or he may get hit by a bus tomorrow.

Nobody knows.

Case in point: My younger brother had a life expectancy of 2 years, he is now 25y.o.

I too am concerned that your bf actually had the gall to ask you to change careers. Terminal illness or not, that's super selfish.


I vote for following your dream, because if God really did put him in your life, trust me He didn't do it at your expense. Blessings don't come at a price.


If you 2 want to be together, you simply will.

Love has a habit of finding a way.

I think you're making a mistake if you stay with him. End this relationship. Move on. Find someone with whom you can plan a future. You may want to have children. Being a nurse is absolutely nothing like being a doctor. You're in premed. It really doesn't matter what you're in. Finish college before you marry anyone. At least finish the bachelor's degree. Don't be rushed into something by a man who is desperate to pack what he can into the next ten years. Yes, he seems so charming and attentive to you. He's highly motivated to be. But he's also selfish.

Continue seeing him, if you must. But do not entertain a marriage preposal until you have graduated from the four years of basic college, regardless of what you major in - nursing or whatever. You are too young to be making this commitment. You say it's a "fairly new relationship." If he was the healthiest guy in the world, I would say, "Wait." He is in a rush. You do not need to be. You are insisting that God communnicate with you through signs whose meaning you have already decided on. That's not God you're hearing. That's you telling yourself that this is all divinely inspired. God may will for you to be a bit lonely for the few years it takes to get through college. You're looking for a fast escape from that.

He's "got issues," this guy does. God expects us to use great prudence in entering the sacrament if marriage. You do not really know this man yet. That takes time.

If I read correctly: you were in love, got disappoonted, and met this young man on the rebound. Slow down.