[UntetheredSoul]

I've been seeing someone for a couple months now but we aren't officially together because he was called for military duties. He wasn't deported or anything like that, but it requires a lot of his time. We started off crazy for each other and we let each other know all of the time. He would come see me on the weekends and before he got called for duties we spent a lot of time together. Recently he offered for me to live with him, which I know is a HUGE step for people that aren't even in an "official relationship." the last couple times we've seen each other he has been very distant. Also because he became sick, we couldn't be intimate, which caused me to feel like we were even more distant. We haven't talked in 5 days, and he would usually always send me a good morning text or some form of checking in on me. I waited 5 days and I finally texted him to see if everything was okay(he isn't much of a caller) he hasn't responded. I have no idea what I could have possibly done to make him ignore me like this. I feel used and overall confused how someone that you are about to live with would give you the cold shoulder. I have pretty low self confidence, and I am really trying to work on it, but it's things like this that make me feel very low about myself and I feel like it's always my fault. Experiences from my past have impacted me greatly, but I don't want to believe that every relationship ends the same way...I don't know if anyone will read this because I know it's long and probably boring, but anyone, I would really appreciate some advice and insight. I've overthought this far too much:/

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[Bill3]

I have no idea what I could have possibly done to make him ignore me like this.

You didn't "make" him ignore you. His unresponsiveness is his choice. If you did anything wrong, he should have spoken with you about it.

(((((UntetheredSoul)))))

[UntetheredSoul]

Thank you...I know you are right about that one. I'm just wondering why.

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[QuirkyGirl99]

That sucks! I hate this current trend of "ghosting". It makes people less accountable for their actions! It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. It is about him. He probably started freaking out about his decision to have you to move in with him. He may have changed his mind and doesn't have the balls to say anything yet. I could be wrong though. Don't contact him. Wait for him to contact you. He could be working out whatever conflicting feelings he may be having. If you don't hear from him in a few more days, assume it's over and move on with your life. I know it's hard without proper closure. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

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[UntetheredSoul]

Thank you. It's just so unbelieable to me that people can just leave you hanging without a single care. I could never do that to him!I was planning to do so. Closure is very important for me to have, but I guess I have to make my own closure sometimes.

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