[Arlene2015]

okay so I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and we have a 2 year old daughter. my boyfriend cannot get over my past sexual relationships and he brings the males I've been with before up all the time. he says he doesn't care he just cares that I lied to him about it but he will not stop talking about it, he also accuses me of cheating and says that he knows that there's more to my past (which there isn't). he also is becoming very controlling he does not want me to hang out with my old girl friends and have a good time he feels I shouldn't have fun because im a mom which I never go have fun. some days he is fine but others he begins talking about it out of no where and stops talking to me. what should I do?

[~Christina]

What redeeming qualities does he have? If he is unwilling to let the past stay in the past then its unlikely there is a good future ahead for you both.

Him wanting to control who you see and where you go like this is very unhealthy.

Welcome to PC

um, I'm trying to understand his perspective....

How often are you going out?
How often does he go out?
How often do you go out together?
What happens with the child when you go out?
Does your circle of chums include men and are any of them those you had a past relationship with?

And, here's my litmus test again: if roles were exactly reversed, what would be your own feelings on the matter?

[healingme4me]

What does your past have to do with 5 years together and a 2 year old?

It's rather normal for mom's to have a bit of me time. Might not seem like that so much, when they are young and still potty training, but once they get to school full time, then what?