[psyco123]

Good morning to all my dear friends at PC

I would like to ask for a help

I am 30 year old ......

from childhood onwards i had a feeling that my family doesnt love me or care for me...... hence i used to seek love among others and outsiders who ever showed a bit of concern towards me and get attached to them easily....

But my parents used to say that they have loved me and cared in their way...
my most deadliest feeling is that i am unable to change my thinking that they ever loved me.... I am depressed and have feeling lonliness......no one likes or care for me ... how to change this thinkings.... any suggestions or techniques would be grateful. FRIENDS PLEASE HELP ME TO GET OUT OF THIS

[Trippin2.0]

Firstly, is there any tangible evidence that they do love you?


I'd start there, as it's helped me in the past.

[littleowl2006]

Can you change your life in other aspects? Meet New people ? Changing my habits has helped me shift my focus. I started doing Yoga during a major life crisis and learned to love myself a little bit more. Sometimes a little distance from the family can be quite healthy

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I'm in the same situation with my dad. I blame him for my PTSD but he thinks because he made good money, that he was a good father lol. What a pile of ****. Today I asked my dad for a few dollars to put some groceries in my fridge (not working right now, not stable, long story). Well he told me to f$&k off! Because I'm having financial troubles he thinks I'm a loser. To him, love comes with money. When I had a job he treated me good. Now that I can't work he acts like I'm the scum of the earth.

As much as I obsess over our twisted relationship, I know deep down that I'm an adult, I did my part and reaches out. Now it's time to move on. It's really sad but I may have no other choice.

I have zero self esteem from the way he raised me and countless pdocs and therapists have told me to just stay away from him.

Maybe you can just focus on yourself and realize that you tried and just move on. It may not be what you want but it might also be the only other thing to do.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 75mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

[psyco123]

thank u guys but can anyone teach how to love ourselves

[Montezumadiz]

Originally Posted by psyco123

thank u guys but can anyone teach how to love ourselves

Don't think there's anyone who can teach you how to love yourself but you. Think about what would you like, things that make you feel confident and comfortable, do it your way. Just like you said, you're parents may seemed to not love you, but they did in their way. I just think everyone has different ways to do and deal with problems, we just got to accept and work together for the problem to be solve.