[galeckifan]

I am so upset, people at my church seem to dislike me. they seem to not want to give me rides home and lie to get out of it and they ignore me when I say bye to them when they are leaving. Last night I asked this girl for a ride home and she said no she was taking this girl that lives near me and this other guy home and didn't have room in her car. Then she and the girl she was taking left and without the guy and when I said bye to them they completely ignored me even though I said it plenty loud and over and over so I know they heard me. And she left without the guy she said she was taking which means she lied to me. And also she said even if there was room she doesn't have enough gas to take three people home. But the girl she was taking lives really close to me, whats the difference? It wouldn't be any more gas than just taking her home. why lie to me about giving is guy a ride home. Why is she lying and making excuses for not giving me a ride
Then after they left, I asked this other girl wasnt that guy leaving with them and she said yes, but you need to just worry about yourself and it doesn't matter in this really rude tone.
Also, do you think Mayim Bialik would like me or give me rides home if she knew me?

Originally Posted by galeckifan

I am so upset, people at my church seem to dislike me. they seem to not want to give me rides home and lie to get out of it and they ignore me when I say bye to them when they are leaving. Last night I asked this girl for a ride home and she said no she was taking this girl that lives near me and this other guy home and didn't have room in her car. Then she and the girl she was taking left and without the guy and when I said bye to them they completely ignored me even though I said it plenty loud and over and over so I know they heard me. And she left without the guy she said she was taking which means she lied to me. And also she said even if there was room she doesn't have enough gas to take three people home. But the girl she was taking lives really close to me, whats the difference? It wouldn't be any more gas than just taking her home. why lie to me about giving is guy a ride home. Why is she lying and making excuses for not giving me a ride
Then after they left, I asked this other girl wasnt that guy leaving with them and she said yes, but you need to just worry about yourself and it doesn't matter in this really rude tone.
Also, do you think Mayim Bialik would like me or give me rides home if she knew me?

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It sounds like you need to find another church to go to. The people there are obviously not nice people. Is there anything about your personality that might be off putting? Do you always ask for rides and not even offer to help out with gas money?

Maybe that's one reason why you're being ignored. Idk. Did you reject social invitations that you got in the past? Are your views on religion different from theirs? I find that a lot of people tend to dislike others whos beliefs tend to be different from theirs.

Also, do you talk to much, give unsolicited advice, have annoying habits, wear heavy perfume, complain a lot, or have bad hygiene, gossip to much, etc.? I'm just asking you to ask yourself that. If the answer if yes to any of those things, then that could be a reason why they're ignoring you. If NOT, then they just suck. Like I said, find a church with nicer people, and one that's closer to you as well.

[eskielover]

I have gone back & read many of your other threads since you came here in 2013.

This disability that you have seems to be constantly causing people to react in a negative way towards you including your own mom while you seem to have no concept of why they react to you in the way they do.

I would think with this disability that you would be in therapy to learn skills to help you learn better how to relate & how to interface with people on a functional level.

Yes, people who don't understand your disability can end up reacting to you in a negative way because you don't react to them in a way that is normally socially acceptable. Therapy can not only help you be better aware of this, but teach you how to relate in ways that don't cause the reactions that you are finding you get not only from these church people but your own Mom.

Yes, you can go to another church, but everywhere you go you will continue to have the same problem if you don't learn the skills to be better able to interface with the people around you. I am sorry that you are having these problems but they are problems you have probably had all your life & never learned skills to teach you to better interface with other people & to understand why their behavior is what it is.

You were continually complaining about the way your mom treated you & had no idea what you did to cause her to react that way. Relationships are difficult enough when we don't have a disability that complicates them in the first place but when we do, it's important to do as much as possible to learn how to live as functional as possible in the world around us even when our disability makes that difficult. The one thing we can't do is go around in denial that we have any part in the problems that we are experiencing & totally blame in on the people around us. We need to take the responsibility to learn how to function in the best way we can through therapy training that can teach us skills that we in no way can learn on our own.

[divine1966]

Are you seeing a counselor? Vocational rehab services in your state can help you with getting free counseling abs other services since you have a disability. They might help you to learn different strategies etc

As about rides people aren't obligated to drive other people

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