[alieninshadows]

I can't STAND IT. This woman I call mom just NEVER takes what I say. She always has to prove me wrong. Compares me to her life and compares my things to other people.
This time it's just a little minor thing, I know, but it's causing anxiety. She wants to fiddle around with MY LAPTOP to see if it can burn movies or makes movies or something. She calls it burning movies, but what she means is making homemade videos. I know I can video record stuff onto my laptop, but there is one tray and that is a disc reader. I think. But she wants to come to my place teach me how to make videos. I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS! I have my hobbies that I don 't push on to her. She has hers, now and she is pushing them on to me. She also has to butt into my activities. I am not inviting her over any time soon. No sirree bob. NO! The whole issue with her showing me anything is that if something goes wrong or if she can't figure something out she thinks is supposed to be so simple she gets stressed and frustrated and then will take it out on me. It ends up with tension in the atmosphere so thick you have to saw your way through it. I've been getting stomachaches and back pain and headaches just thinking of it. I'm clenching my teeth. I want to cry.
Maybe I'm just tired. I'm trying not to think about it. I don't think I'm going to answer my phone tomorrow. Or maybe I will. I need to tell my mom that I'm just not into this. If I tell her I'm stressed about it she will ask me why I'm stressed. AAAAAAAGH. Like, she does this and it drives me even more crazy because I...I..I just tell her and she just asks "Oh, well, what are you stressed about." Actually, she will ask that in the form of, like, if I say in general "I have enough problems." OR " I have enough stuff on my plate." She will take an opportunity to probe into the WHY's. I will tell her nothing I wrong. Then she will state what I said as if I'm on trial. I can't even mutter a figure of speech without it being used against me. Corrupt store clerks do this to justify how I shouldn't be honored a discount or refund.
Okay, I'm now officially upset.
CAn any of you relate to any of this? How do you cope?

[littleowl2006]

Yep, definitely can relate. My mother sends me over the edge, too. What I usually do is
- rant
- take my mind off of it for some time
- try to find out what exactly my problem is (and make a post here to clarify that)
- try to fix my boundaries with her

AlienInShadows - My mother was constantly trying to change my life too. I would cringe anytime she came over because I knew she would insist on moving things around or changing stuff in some way. When I asked her not to she would act all crushed like I had intentionally hurt her or didn't appreciate her. She would go home and I could expect a phone call from my father chastizing me. "Why do you have to hurt her all the time? Do you realize she is crying uncontrollably? Why must everything be about you? She does so much for you and you don't appreciate her. Why must you do this everytime?" and so on.

I came home from the hospital once to find my entire kitchen rearranged. I was so freaking angry.