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Old Nov 24, 2015, 10:25 PM
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Have you ever blocked anyone on facebook?

Once I set up a profile years ago, I decided to block people I'd known during my lifetime who weren't so nice to me. I just went & found their profiles, then blocked them. I've done this with about 7 or 8 people so far.

Because 1)sometimes their profiles would come up under "people you may know" and I didn't want to see them (brought back unpleasant memories) and 2)even though I've never interacted with them on facebook, I feel better knowing they won't see my name or picture and 3) they don't need to see my picture or know anything about me.
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Old Nov 24, 2015, 10:37 PM
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Do you mean blocking them or unfriending them?

If you block them they still see your posts and don't know they are blocked. Unfriending them they cannot see your posts (depending on your privacy settings).
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 01:02 AM
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Excuse me but blocking them makes them not see your posts as well.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 01:07 AM
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I've blocked several people for different reasons, mostly because they were bullying me. I had a whole bunch of people blocked that I removed from high school.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 01:18 AM
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Being blocked by someone else means you can't see their posts. I know, a guy I dated who was a narcissist blocked me. I found his account through my second account (that is empty/unused).

Twitter is the place where you can block someone and they can still see your posts/tweets. They don't know they're blocked unless they try to retweet your tweets and can't.

I've blocked a few people. Drama-llamas and such. I only just reactivated in order to talk to one friend.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 04:52 AM
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I don't know too many nasty people that I need to block. Id be concerned if I knew that many people in my life who weren't nice to me and needed to be blocked .
8 seems like a high number to me.

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Old Nov 25, 2015, 06:06 AM
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I don't know too many nasty people that I need to block. Id be concerned if I knew that many people in my life who weren't nice to me and needed to be blocked .
8 seems like a high number to me.

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Not if there is a whole side to your family to block. We have done this with my husband's horrific family, so by the time you block several brothers, nephews, etc., you can hit eight pretty quickly. We enjoy FB and have no problems with the rest of the people we interact with. We are just very proactive about heading off that family's ability to seriously harass at the pass. Keeps the experience drama-free and positive.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 08:32 AM
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Yes, blocking someone doesn't prevent them from seeing your name and picture. You still maintain a presence for everyone to see. For some reason, even the ocassional post seems to be visible.

I have been unfriending people lately owing to some rather disgusting vindictive racism, religious intolerance, and Islamaphobic rhetoric. A good portion of these people I am blocking too. I have neither the energy to argue with them about their utter stupdity nor the wish to associate with people like that. It has been really sad as these were friends I once had respect for.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 11:06 AM
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Yes, blocking on FB will prevent them from seeing you and you from seeing them unless you purposefully search them out.

From FB:
"Once you block someone, that person can no longer see things you post on your timeline, tag you, invite you to events or groups, start a conversation with you, or add you as a friend. Note: Does not include apps, games or groups you both participate in."
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 11:45 AM
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I've blocked quite a few people but only unfriended one person. That person was a trigger for me and I felt that I didn't need them in my friends list.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 02:55 PM
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Do you mean blocking them or unfriending them?

If you block them they still see your posts and don't know they are blocked. Unfriending them they cannot see your posts (depending on your privacy settings).
If you block them, they cannot see you at all.

However, if you are in a group discussion on a friend's FB page, they will see a sort of "blank area" where your post would be in the thread. I think what they see is your name in grey, but can't see your picture or anything else. I think that's how it works. So I kind of believe at least a few of these people have figured out, over time, that they are blocked by me. They were never on my friend list though.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 03:05 PM
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I have never been blocked by anyone on FB (as far as I know), and I've never been unfriended by anyone for personal reasons. I stay out of political arguments and such.

The people I blocked weren't harassing me on facebook; I just knew them from a long time ago and don't want to give them the privilege of viewing my profile, even if they just have idle curiosity about me and what I'm doing now.

I blocked one woman that I knew in high school because years earlier, she blew me off at a class reunion and acted like she didn't want to be seen talking to me. I was kind of sad at that because I never did anything to her, and had fond memories of her from grade school. So when I set up my FB profile I blocked her. That was about 2 years ago. Someone mentioned to me recently, that she used my first name for one of the fictional characters that she wrote about in one of her religious blogs. Which is weird, because I have an unusual name; and she even spelled it the same way as mine. (Which is also too coincidental because not only is it an unusual name, it also has different spellings). Not really sure how to interpret this, or if its just sheer coincidence. But its strange.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 03:10 PM
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I dont block people on facebook if I need to see them in real life but I would want to not see them anymore.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 03:16 PM
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Blocking people who persistently trigger us is a "necessary evil" in this age

(8 seems like a high number to me too...)
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 04:05 PM
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I unfriend fairly regularly - usually because I realize that I associate only negative feelings with the person and can't find any value in their (even online) acquaintance.

I've only blocked three people - one was my friend's abusive and incarcerated ex-husband who was a stalking risk for her, a person with whom I'd had a falling out and who was using their children's accounts to spy on me and one person who became personally insulting and violent towards friends of mine in a facebook argument.

I consider blocking to be extreme and I relate it to issues of safety of myself and others that can see my posts.

I have a friend who blocked another mutual friend over a very slight issue of contention and TBH, I lost a lot of respect for the friend who blocked the other friend. It seemed childish and over the top considering the whole context and reasoning behind it and it led me to believe that she had a lot of insecurity that she actively projects onto others.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 05:43 PM
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I have a friend who blocked another mutual friend over a very slight issue of contention and TBH, I lost a lot of respect for the friend who blocked the other friend. It seemed childish and over the top considering the whole context and reasoning behind it and it led me to believe that she had a lot of insecurity that she actively projects onto others.
I wouldn't block someone over a slight issue of contention, but with the people I've blocked, it was more than that. One was a girl in school who used to bully me and just seeing her face on FB reminded me of a time in my life when I felt powerless. She was from a wealthy family and would taunt people who didn't have the same nice things that she did. I was just too grossed out by seeing her face again, even after all these years. So right or wrong, I blocked her so she doesn't appear in "people you may know" because we did have some mutual friends on FB.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 06:03 PM
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That seems pretty understandable to me.
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Old Nov 25, 2015, 07:22 PM
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Have you ever blocked anyone on facebook?

Once I set up a profile years ago, I decided to block people I'd known during my lifetime who weren't so nice to me. I just went & found their profiles, then blocked them. I've done this with about 7 or 8 people so far.

Because 1)sometimes their profiles would come up under "people you may know" and I didn't want to see them (brought back unpleasant memories) and 2)even though I've never interacted with them on facebook, I feel better knowing they won't see my name or picture and 3) they don't need to see my picture or know anything about me.
I thought I was the only one. I've done this on facebook too. I don't see anything wrong with blocking people if it makes you feel better.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 01:54 PM
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Yes, I thought I was the only one too. The people I know who block, usually only do so because someone is hassling them on Facebook. For me, these people weren't bothering me in the present, but they've bothered me in the past. So that was enough (for me) to block them.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 04:04 PM
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Have you ever blocked anyone on facebook?

Once I set up a profile years ago, I decided to block people I'd known during my lifetime who weren't so nice to me. I just went & found their profiles, then blocked them. I've done this with about 7 or 8 people so far.

Because 1)sometimes their profiles would come up under "people you may know" and I didn't want to see them (brought back unpleasant memories) and 2)even though I've never interacted with them on facebook, I feel better knowing they won't see my name or picture and 3) they don't need to see my picture or know anything about me.
Well, lots of people are saying 8 sounds like a lot so I'm here to tell you I have at least 20 people blocked on my personal account. I have two fb accounts, one that I use as more of a professional presence and then one where I post vacation photos and talk about my life and such. I have blocked any "spam" accounts that try to friend me because my boyfriend's exwife cyberstalks me. She was using their son's facebook to spy on me for a while so I'm kind of paranoid, I assume any weird profile with no shared friends is her with a fake account. I have blocked people that annoy me when I'm just tired of seeing their comments, people I'm not and have never been fb friends with, just that frequently comment on mutual friends. Because I figure fb is my leisure time, why be annoyed? I've blocked nearly every coworker from a prior job that was full of drama. Basically anyone I don't want to have access to me. My family is also really dramatic (all the women have personality disorders) so I have been unfriended and blocked by my mother multiple times for upsetting her and my sister has had me blocked for almost two years.

That one hurts because we have so many mutual friends I can see people responding to things I can't see and know it is her. Regardless, block whomever you want. This is your life and your time! If you don't want to see them or want them to see you, I think blocking is perfectly acceptable. With all the bad stuff that happens in the world, you don't need something silly like facebook bringing you down. IMO.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 05:04 PM
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 05:23 PM
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a person with whom I'd had a falling out and who was using their children's accounts to spy on me
Good lord, is this common? My boyfriend's ex-wife was doing this to me and I thought it was really extreme behavior.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 10:23 PM
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I really hate fakebook. I feel like if people really care about how I'm doing, or want to be my friend, they'll call or write. I left fakebook years ago with nearly 300 "friends" that never responded to messages or anything.

I blocked fakebook . Definitely much happier as a result.
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Old Dec 02, 2015, 04:34 PM
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Well, lots of people are saying 8 sounds like a lot so I'm here to tell you I have at least 20 people blocked on my personal account. .
I don't think 8 is a lot, or even 20, but I also don't think it matters what the number of blocked people is. I don't think there is some minimally acceptable number of people that one can block. I'm also in my 40s now so it stands to reason that I've come across more people in my lifetime who had issues.

I've also had an issue with someone in my husband's family who refused my friend request. Then later, sent me various friend requests from other profiles so she could spy on me, I suppose out of curiosity. I figured out it was her. Just weird and messed up. If someone doesn't want to be my friend, they have no business spying on me or looking at my profile for any reason.
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Old Dec 03, 2015, 02:23 AM
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I really hate fakebook. I feel like if people really care about how I'm doing, or want to be my friend, they'll call or write. I left fakebook years ago with nearly 300 "friends" that never responded to messages or anything.

I blocked fakebook . Definitely much happier as a result.


Same. It's very fake. People add friends just to up their numbers. I'd message people and they'd never respond.
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