What do you think about living in apartment alone?

I have lived alone for two stretches of time. The first time I was 20, I had moved straight out of my parents' house into my partner's house and then into an apartment with my boyfriend whom I married. We had just split up after only being married 13 months and I was in a bad space, I lived alone a year and hated it. I didn't feel unsafe I was just depressed and isolated. Then I briefly lived alone after another breakup, I was always too quick to move in with people I was dating. Finally after another breakup I had my best friend move in to be my roommate and when we decided to go our separate ways, living space wise, I decided to live alone. That was almost 8 years ago. I lived in an apartment I dearly loved for 5 years and then bought a house by myself and I've been there for 3 years.

I do want to live with my boyfriend someday, but the time I lived alone was VERY important. I tend to be kind of codependent, and extremely anxious, so I gained a lot of confidence living on my own. When something happened, I had to take care of it because there was no one else there to, and it really empowered me. I didn't expect to ever buy a house alone for sure, but I have loved my time living alone this time around. It will honestly be weird living with others. As several other posters have pointed out, you are on your own terms - listen to what you want as loud as you want; if the dishes don't bother you, leave them, theyre your dishes; no one annoying you with leaving their things around; no compromising; keep it as hot or cold as is comfortable for you; decorate how you want; complete and total freedom! It's awesome! It's going to be hard for me to give that up, I don't mind my own clutter but other people's drives me nuts. I think everyone should live alone at least once in their life.

Not every apartment is nosy or has nasty smell. Typically if you rent more expensive places you have none of this nonsense.

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Thank you all for opinions

I had a couple of awful roommates in college, which convinced me that living alone was the best way to go.

I also sat down and did the math, and found that having a roommate would only save about $100 to $150 a month. For me, that just wasn't enough to justify having a roommate. Also, there was the other issue of, what if the roommate can't cover their half for some reason?

I think we also need to consider readyness for moving out on your own. Doing so shouldn't be a matter of whether one thinks they might like it. It should absolutely be about being equipped emotionally and otherwise to successfully live on one's own.

That's my goal. I also have a friend I know always says she lives with a cousin to people she doesn't know well which is smart,too.

Not necessarily....

A friend of mine lived in an upscale complex. You could still hear neighbors, depending on where you were. And whether they were noisy people or not. He still got cigarette smoke, cooking odors, etc. And he paid $700 more a month than I did.

And not everyone can afford those kinds of places anyway.

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Originally Posted by rcat I think we also need to consider readyness for moving out on your own. Doing so shouldn't be a matter of whether one thinks they might like it. It should absolutely be about being equipped emotionally and otherwise to successfully live on one's own.

True, but I also think whether you like it is something to consider as well. You won't know until you do it, and until it's been at least a year. If you don't like it, then you can try to get a roommate, or something.

This all depends on so many factors, like WHERE you live. You might not like it in one location, but you actually end up enjoying it somewhere else.

It can be complex, I guess.

Oh of course people can't even get approved for upscale place if they don't make enough. I just don't understand generalizing that apartments are loud or dirty. Some are. Nicer apartments don't allow people be nosy. Of course it's nicer to own your own house but nog everyone can afford that either

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Going from a house full of people to your own place? Sounds like heaven to me. Then again I'm somewhat of a recluse. Go out with friends or invite them over if you are lonely. Or consider dating.

A few words of note on the side conversation about condition of, safety, and atmospheres of apartments.

I think most property management firms can be helpful in locating a place that meets all or most of the needs you request.

When I was your age, my mom convinced me not to move out on my own because some guy would 'end up sleeping on my couch' and using me. Instead, I shouldn't move out until it was into my husband's home. She said 'Find a man with his own place and move in with him'. Which I did.

I can't say I feel like it was the best road for me to take, but I did have safety and financial security, and beautiful children.

If you were my daughter, I'd tell you to wait until you find a nice girlfriend to move into a safe place with and enjoy your 20's independence.

Noisy people can be anywhere, in apartments, houses, townhouses, single family homes, etc.

Nice places don't always enforce noise rules.