Where to look?

I've been divorced for over three years. I don't have a clue where to look for a new girlfriend. I was with here for over 12 years. So I haven't had to look for over 15 years. Dating seems different. I've tried a couple of internet sites. Bars don't work for me either. I'm very shy. Where would you guys look???

I will soon move. I think I will look for Book clubs, go to lectures at a university or join a music group. I'm not that optimistic, but I guess it is worth a try.

I dated a few prospects, as I now call them...lol...but none of them were good for me. I divorce in 2003 and my dating life went from 2004-2008. Then I put that on hold...

Haven't dated since then...

Where would I look? Don't know. Bars don't work! Internet, not that again! Hmm?

Bookstore. Library. Drawing a blank...

I'm single and clueless, too. I just know I'm staying away from the Internet! I can't handle meeting & dating people that way.

I've heard a lot of people had success with online dating, but I've never done it myself so I don't really have any tips in that area.

My boyfriend and I met on OK Cupid. However, I've also met horrible people on there too. When I moved to a place where I felt most at home, I found more people on that site like me.

OK thanks.

I met my husband at my apartment complex. I lived in the apartment upstairs from him. Before that I did some online dating. That worked pretty well for me because I talked to them online for a very long time, watched for red flags etc, before ever giving my number out. Then would talk on the phone several times before meeting. I never met a bad one because I weeded them out before it ever got that far.

I met my boyfriend of over a year on OK Cupid. That was after like, 8 years of being on there and meeting a few people that I became good friends with but no one that I had any "spark" with. So I don't know if that is good success or not? I more just stayed on there to cover my bases, there aren't many people compatible with me in the area/state that I live in so not a lot of prospects! It's harder to meet people these days, sadly. If you have any interests that you could go to a group or class for, to meet people with similar interests. I know some places have "meet up" groups but my area doesn't. Maybe volunteer if you have time, just think outside the box of ways to spend more time around people with similar interests. At the very least, you'd meet some new friends!

Tinder also. Without it, I would have asked the same question.

Dating sites seem to be the big thing now. It seems great for people who are shy because you can communicate online first. I usually meet guys through friends and family friends. I have a older brother and I date older men so his friends are considered game lol. Do you have any friends that can set you up with someone? Are you a drinker? Go to a bar and offer to buy a girl a drink and go from there. Maybe have a few yourself to loosen up. Just don't get sloppy. Girls hate that.

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I've met my BF on eharmony. We plan on getting engaged some time soon. He is wonderful. Our relationship is great. We would never meet anywhere but online. I am a high school teacher and also have evening job plus weekend tutoring and he is RN working nights plus overtime. And we live an hour away. There would never be a place or time for us to meet.

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