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Dec 10, 2015, 06:06 AM
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Hello Everyone,
Last weekend one of my good friends took out her stress at me. All this year she has been kind and helpful but then people, friends and family have thrown it back in her face. Unfortunately I think I fall under that to some extent. She buys me good gifts for xmas etc and I have tried to return this by asking what she like or wants and would get her it. She doesn't like surprise and I feel less awkward by asking what she would like. In money terms this properly is less than what she has spent on me as she goes go over the top. I feel like a right horrible person for not being able to show the apprication back to her. I don't expect any gifts when it comes to Christmas/birthdays. Have never asked that she can o ly biy me this or that. It has chewed me up all week as I don't know how to process it. My mind is thinking she is venting about how she feels and/or having a dig at me. It has disrupted my routine this week and sleep. My stomach feels like a washing machine. I hate upsetting people and I don't like to see friends/family upset. We have both been invited/have planned a few events over the Christmas period. It's making me not want to do anything becuase I don't want any conflict. It has made my negative beliefs about myself be the main beliefs this week. I don't know if I'm being paranoid/sensitive etc. I understand that we're all not perfect and I understand that she might not have been purely having a dig at me. Feel rubbish at the moment. Thanks for any advice in advance. Sent from my GT-I8190 using Tapatalk
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#2
Dec 10, 2015, 08:01 AM
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Showing appreciation doesn't have to come in the form of a gift. Why not express to her your thoughts on what she does that is kind and helpful to others. Take her to dinner to thank her for all her kindness. Send her a text, email or call her after you find out she has done something kind to another. She sounds like a very generous person and I'm sure she feels unappreciated at times not because she doesn't get a gift in return, but maybe her efforts don't get recognized. We all want to feel appreciated!
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Dec 10, 2015, 09:34 AM
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Dec 10, 2015, 10:10 AM
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Just hope the friendship hasn't been ruined
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Dec 10, 2015, 03:27 PM
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I'm not quite sure I fully understand what happened... But all the same, I think taking her out to lunch is a great idea. Some other ideas I had were to make her something (I crochet, so I like to make my friends gifts to show them how much they mean to me), or to just write it out in a card. Sometimes just the act of writing it out and giving it to them shows how much you care.
It sounds like your friend just needed to vent. I don't think the friendship is ruined. Especially if you take the time to show her how much she means to you. 
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