[specialneedsmom]

Sometimes people can seem very unreasonable and its difficult to understand them.

I like to believe that everyone has good intentions, but unfortunately, that is often not the case.

It often seems to me that people are playing head games.

Does anyone else feel the same way?

[CommaDotSlash]

From personal experience, people generally behave at their worst out of fear or ignorance, with arrogance or other influences amplifying the negatives.

I suppose I go by my life taking whatever pain I am dealt and trying to find something positive from it, to try and lessen it.

[green0cake]

Seems that your expectation about people blew you to your limit. People have different upbringings, pasts and current situations in their lives so I think that affects on how they behave now. That's in your case to understand them and do not expect from them. We both knew that you cannot control them so you will just end up frustrated if you will try to change them.

[specialneedsmom]

I have a lot of difficulty understanding what seems like games that people play.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by specialneedsmom

Sometimes people can seem very unreasonable and its difficult to understand them.

I like to believe that everyone has good intentions, but unfortunately, that is often not the case.

It often seems to me that people are playing head games.

Does anyone else feel the same way?

I think most people have good intentions but there are some that don't. I think we all have our own motives but those are not necessarily bad/negative. Unfortunately you can't really figure out if someone is playing games until you get to know them, I think the trick is to look for red flags and get out when you notice many of them.

LOL, special needs mom, YUP! People are selfish, got motives, use people to get what they want, lie, steal, play games. Yet there are a few good people out there. You have to test them first, to see if they are real or not. They have to prove their loyalty, earn your respect before you can trust them. That is the world in which we live. tc

[CopperStar]

IME most people will do what they can get away with. Most people who behave well only do so because they don't perceive that they could get away with behaving badly. I see this is especially working in customer service, where people know that the rule is "the customer is always right" and that we employees are unable to stand up for ourselves. The opportunity to get away with bad behavior presents itself, and suddenly a lot of "normal" "nice" people let their nasty side out. So what it essentially boils down to is that you have to set the rules. You have to decide what you will and will not tolerate, period. If you tolerate bad behavior, mind games, etc then there are going to be a lot of people who happily seize the opportunity.