[BarefootMom]

I see my daughter and she's great, witty, generous. Next week I get texts from her, cursing at me, you never...... you always........
I think it's her conscience and bad self talk causing this. I've stuck by her thru really bad times. It hurts me to be talked to like this and my husband says it's not personal, she's just ill. How do I cope? What should I say?

[ComfortablyNumb5]

What kind of MI does she have? I would wait till she's calmed down and confront her. Saying something while she's in these moods will only add fuel to the fire and make her more upset. I have bp2 and a bad temper myself. I've gone off on loved ones and once I've cooled down I realize how awful I was and apologize.

[Rose76]

You have a right to be respected. Having a psychiatric diagnosis is not a license to be abusive toward others. I'm not sure that's what is happening, but that's what it sounded like. I don't believe in excusing bad behavior with saying she is ill. That might be a good reason for you to be less hurt. Kind of like saying, "Consider the source."

If she is suddenly turning nasty on you without provocation, then don't enable that by feeling you have to be ever so patient because she is somehow impaired. Promptly let her know that you object to being the target of abuse. When you get a text that is offensive, tell her to either join with you in working out any grievance she has, or to just leave you alone.

It sounds like she has a seriously bad attitude. That's going to end up hurting her more than it hurts you. As a mother, you have a right to supply her with some correction when she needs it.