[Chocopiano27]

I'm really confused with this guy. We met when we're still in 8th grader. He has always been that 'cool guy', being chased by all the girls in school. We were born in the same day.. Yes. Like 'literally' the same day. We were told that we look alike and we look good together. We have the same hobby and all, it's just like we are twins. His friends told me that he likes me and that he actually wanted to confess. But I was still loving somebody else (that someone is now my ex).. and he knew that.

Several years later, we're no longer in the same school. One day when we met he asked me to go to a movie with him. We went out (with some other friends) two times that week, the second time we went out we held hands etc. and all my friends told me we looked really in love with each other.

The day after that he never texted me. We were like complete strangers. I waited for him to text, a week later there's still nothing. I then texted him first but it ended not long after that, it's like he has no interest in me at all. Was he just playing around with me the other day?.. Didn't his guy friends told me that he's into me, they even set things up so we could meet again.

It has been a year now. we chat a few times (in a month) and it always end up with me being ignored. It's weird. Sometimes he text me first and then he ignored my reply. I don't understand him at all it frustrates me! But i'm still waiting.. I ignored other guys' texts. My cousin who's in the same school as him told me that he also doesn't seem to have any interest in any girls there, and he hasn't gone out with anyone since 3 years ago (which is really weird for him).

And recently... I know that my ex (who is unexpectedly his bestfriend) is still deeply in love with me, but i've reject him for 3 times. Is there anything to do with him? My ex also told me that my crush asked him whether or not he still loves me (okay this is confusing. lol) but my ex didn't reply to his question. But.. I have a feeling that's not the problem.

I just wanna know what my crush is thinking.. I'd rather be heartbroken knowing that he was playing around with me than always getting my hopes up. I want to move on if that's the case.
He often tease my cousin about me, and when he talks to her (my cousin) it's always about me. How we look really alike and that we're like twins, whether or not my cousin acknowledge him as her cousin too etc. He even asked my cousin to deliver a text, saying "hi" for me.. He even sent me things about this college we want to apply. (yes the college i want to apply is the same as him). It's so weird!!

[Webgoji]

Actually, from my perspective it sounds like he wants to be friends, but he's also got a lot of other things going on as well. He may also be picking up on the "I wanna date you" vibe so when you guys hang out, he feels he needs to let things calm back down because he doesn't want to string you out.

Overall, it seems like everyone else (friends, acquaintances, etc) are all pushing something he doesn't seem to feel.

[Permacultural]

He might feel intimidated or embarrassed that there's all this social attention surrounding you and him.

[divine1966]

He is unavailable one way or the other and not interested in anything with you.
That's the reality

My therapist says it's a waste of time trying to figure out why people do what they do as you might never know the answer.

It's much better to focus on what you do and why. Explore why do you pursue a guy who isn't particularly interested? If he was interested certainly he'd pursue you. I wouldn't worry about others telling you how he is in love with you or talk about it or what not. You two don't even know each other. You went out twice and both times with friends. In a long scheme of things it's nothing.

Just because he isn't seeing anyone else doesn't matter either. Many guys don't date at younger age and are busy with other stuff: friends/sports/ etc

Are there nice guys at your school? I'd start looking around. Or wait till college and you sure will meet nice new guys there!

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I think you are way overthinking this.. I agree whith the others, that if he wanted you, he'll pursue you. I think you should consider seriously what YOU feel - forgot all the others. If YOU are crazy about him - tell him! And then take it from there. If not, just forget it, and be friends. The same thing with your ex.