Home Menu

Menu


Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 11:40 AM
imstarlord89's Avatar
imstarlord89 imstarlord89 is offline
Junior Member
 
Member Since: Dec 2015
Location: Virginia
Posts: 14
I've been talking to this girl for a while and overtime we became comfortable and started sharing very personal things with each other. We met for the first time Friday. We spent all day and night together. I stayed at her house. The next morning everything was fine. She had to go to her parent's house to do somethings and I started begging her to let me come. At the time I didn't realize I was begging and it upset her because she has anxiety problems. I never felt worse in my life when I looked over and saw her crying. Now she won't talk to me at all. I've apologized countless times but it doesn't seem to help. I'm not desperate to date or talk to someone but I want to get to know her more than anyone else I've ever met in my life and now I screwed it up and don't know if we'll talk anymore.

Sent from my iPod touch using Tapatalk

advertisement
  #2  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 12:04 PM
divine1966's Avatar
divine1966 divine1966 is offline
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Member Since: Dec 2014
Location: US
Posts: 23,220
Apologize to her. Hopefully she'll understand that you meant no harm. I don't think she was upset due to anxiety but rather due to things moving way too fast. At the same time she might lack good judgement. She allowed a strange man to stay with her overnight. It is wise to take things slow

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  #3  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 12:04 PM
Bill3 Bill3 is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 10,966
You could send her flowers with a nice note and then wait a while and hope for the best.
  #4  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 12:10 PM
random_emotion's Avatar
random_emotion random_emotion is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Sep 2015
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 1,258
I would give her a chance to let things cool down for a while and then maybe try to connect again but I think you just need to give her time and not contact her for a little bit
__________________
Formally known as broken_one
I screwed up.
Thanks for this!
HowDoYouFeelMeow?
  #5  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 04:37 PM
ChipperMonkey's Avatar
ChipperMonkey ChipperMonkey is offline
Grand Poohbah
 
Member Since: May 2014
Location: Somewhere/Anywhere/Nowhere
Posts: 1,516
Maybe just send her a quick apology text saying that you're sorry, you didn't mean to pressure her, and that you just wanted to get to know her better. Let her know you'll give her some time to think about it and you hope to hear back from her when she's ready.
__________________
Will work for bananas.
Thanks for this!
HowDoYouFeelMeow?
  #6  
Old Jan 03, 2016, 05:31 PM
HowDoYouFeelMeow?'s Avatar
HowDoYouFeelMeow? HowDoYouFeelMeow? is offline
Grand Member
 
Member Since: Sep 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 750
Based on the situation, my female perspective is to back off a bit and sent her a tiny note like chippermonkey suggested. While the flowers are very thoughtful, that would be too much too fast for me and would frighten me away even more.
__________________
"I think I'm a hypochondriac. I sure hope so, otherwise I'm just about to die."

PTSD
OCD
Anxiety
Major Depressive Disorder (Severe & Recurrent)
Thanks for this!
Bill3
  #7  
Old Jan 04, 2016, 06:23 AM
JustJenny's Avatar
JustJenny JustJenny is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Oct 2015
Location: Europe
Posts: 414
I agree with the above. Do not push it. Apologize and that's it. If she doesn't respond in the next couple of days you can text her again. Just don't push it.
__________________
The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains. - Paul Simon
Thanks for this!
Bill3
Reply
Views: 540

attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 11:26 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.