[NewCommer]

Good evening, first of all i want to say thank you to all of you people making this forum as awesome as possible (really, you guys are always doing your best to help others without any sort of payment), and i also try to help as my experience gives me the chance.

Well, without any other notes, here's my situation:

It was December 30th (I think not THAT information is needed hehe) and i was about to get some sleep, but i wasn't tired at all, so i thought: "Why don't i get some cereal at 12 in the morning?"
I did as i thought and just as i was about to enjoy my meal when i saw my brother awake too. I asked him how was his day (because he saw a friend or something) and also because we don't speak that much (i love my brother and everything, but it seems like he's trying to avoid contact not only with my, but also some fammilly members too).
Anyway, he didn't speak that much, but instead, he asked how was my night (earlier the same day i had dinner with a friend, she's a girl, and i'm a boy, so my brother might had had the wrong idea), so i told him that everything was fine, that we caught up on us and that nothing remotely happened beyond friendship (She has a boyfriend and i actually wouldn't do anything that could harm their relationship).
So, my brother thought that she had some hidden intentions and i was too dense to notice (i really doubt it).
I gave no importance on that comment (because i know she loves her boyfriend) and i rather changed the subject to "All my failed attempts to get a girlfriend during 2015". And to be honest, it disappoints me that i never had a girlfriend before, because i din't consider myself the kind of guy who just wants sex: i really wish to love someone and be loved in that way, BUT THAT was absolutely no problem during our conversation, because it was hillarious as hell. I mean, we had a really good laugh and had our time of the year (really, i wished we had more moments like that, because he won't open his heart at me). So i was really happy at that moment. Now here comes my conflict...

The next day, we woke up, had breakfast and went training. I love training to be honest, but my brother don't any longer (used to, but since he's studying in medicine school, he doesn't have much time). In order to make his time training a little "faster" i thought we could chat a little, so i started by saying something like... "Wasn't my failed attempts funny?", and he was pretty different than yesterday (And more like "always"). He replied something like...:

"You wanna know why you don't get anyone?, 'cause you're an inmature kid who tries to be a rebel. You only try to act cool and that's why my parents don't trust you" (I doubt, because i'm the one who talks the most with them, we have our differences tough, but just because i seek for some independency doesn't mean i rebel on them). He also kind of said that my parents, during dinner (which i missed because i was with my female friend) were making some "semi-sexual themed jokes" about me. At first i thought it was funny, because they were just kidding about me and my friend (I used to be really shy, so it was new to them seeing me going out with a female friend just to get some dinner and chat). So i laughed about it (as they might have done too), but he took it seriously by saying that my parents don't trust me at all.
Later he said...:

"That's why you don't find someone, because your personallity is a split **** (like a collage of personallities) and women can see those flaws on you, so either they'll reject you or take advantage on you"

I felt really offended by those comments of my brother.
As i said, we rarely talk because i get these kinds of replies very often, but not as hurtfull as this one.

I know you guys don't know me at all and can't guess who i really am.

Can you give me your points of view?

Thank you everyone

[Trippin2.0]

From your post he seems more like the split shyt brother...


Going from nice to assholian in a matter of hours without provocation.


I honestly wonder why he's so mean, I would ask him.


That's what I did with my brother, luckily we're friends again.


I hope you guys can work it out.

[NewCommer]

Already tried, but he won't give a valid answer. Mostly something like "because you're an annoying fool" or something

[JustJenny]

NewCommer, based on your message you seem like a really sweet guy. It looks like your brother is having some strange issues and he just took it all out on you. He shouldn't have been mean to you because you didn't do anything wrong. If I were you I would give your brother some space, see what he does if you don't initiate the conversation.

[NewCommer]

To be honest i'm the kind of guy who struggles to remain silent haha. But at least i'll try.
Thanks JustJenny

[ChipperMonkey]

I think this may be your brother's issue and he's just taking his stuff out on you.

[marmaduke]

Your brother sounds a little bitter, could he be jealous?
Does he feel your parents favour you or anything like that?

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[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by marmaduke

Your brother sounds a little bitter, could he be jealous?
Does he feel your parents favour you or anything like that?

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Thanks for commenting. But to be honest i don't really think so. Believe it or not, i'm the one who asks the least out of my brothers. He's more like "Hey dad, can i have X thing to eat?" or "Can i borrow Y thing?"

I avoid asking somethings to them because i look for some sort of independence (Not that i can actually be all that because i'm still studying but still... I think you guys can get the point )

Thank you everyone.