[aty135531]

I decided to write this due to the frustration I have with my parents. I may not be in the right, but in my current situation there really isn't much I can do except find people to share my thoughts with.

TL;DR: I am disappointed in my parents in the way they behave. They don't know how to care for me, and lack any sort of knowledge to survive in a Western culture, and all this has backfired with me being the one to have to pick up the pieces.

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My parents I feel, have an immature mindset. Not in a way that they act like a child and yell and kick and scream, although there are shades of those things happening, but their ability to make decisions in life is extremely lacking compared to that of a normal adult. Of all the attributes that come from this mindset, the one I cannot stand the most is a lack of self improvement.

The first and most outstanding piece of this puzzle is how they raised me. If someone else's child came up to you and started talking rudely, although the first thing that most likely comes to mind is "why is this child so rude", I can say that the better question to ask is "why/how was this child raised to be so rude". Parents are the cause, while children are the result. Unfortunately, in society, we tend to think more about the result than the cause, so children get the credit and blame for how their parents are. In my case, what I learned from my parents is to think that you're hot ****. No-one else can provoke you, if they do, they're wrong, and everything that I do that looks wrong, is actually right, it's just the world that's spinning in the wrong direction. I've come to terms that I used to (and may still) have this mindset, and needless to say, I am extremely sorry to anyone who has been hurt or angered by my actions. My parents have not. The fact that they have no remorse of using physical punishment as a form of discipline and use "we punished your brother that way as well" as an excuse, the fact that I have run away from home, almost fist fought with my father, and considered disowning them, all because I refused to study chiropractic, yet to this day they are still persistent on me taking the course, AND, the fact that they can still parrot the quote "We raised you, you have to listen to us" over the course of 15 of my 20 years of life, is a testament to show they have not changed in the slightest. And that quote is a lot more than 9 words. It goes to show that they feel like they're raising a child the right way by overwhelming them with something that should be a child's right, not privilege. It shows they value the money spent and effort put in to grow a piece of meat over the freedom of their child. And most of all, it shows a lack of self improvement.

The second thing, though not as significant, are their day-to-day skills. Being put in an unfamiliar environment, what is the most important thing to do? Adapt. Learn the ins and outs to be able to survive, and eventually thrive. Work on your ability to perform tasks that are required in a day of life. Avoid things that will hinder your progress, and focus on your goal. In the case of my parents, having come from a foreign country, they were not (and still are not) fluent in English. They have been here longer than I have, and to this point they still require me to help them with various kinds of paperwork, translate words that are commonly used in even a middle/intermediate school student's vocabulary, and accompany them to business meetings in fear of not being able to express their thoughts in the language they should have more experience in than I do. The quote "old dogs can't learn new tricks" is bollocks. There are numerous examples of successful people only taking up the skills that made them who they are during adolescence. Language is just one example. Cooking is another. I could probably count all the dishes my mum knows how to make with both my hands. Using technology is another. They ask me why they don't receive texts when airplane mode is on. There are others. And others. And more. And yet they feel that the world owes them when their business isn't succeeding, they are two million dollars in debt, and their child has zero trust left in them when they decide to take it out on him. All because they never turn around and look at the path they've taken, and think why the path is littered with only tiny scraps of hope, 2 children who seldom visit with another child that doesn't want to see them in his life, and a crumbling family.

[healingme4me]

Two million in debt is quite astounding. Has bankruptcy ever been a consideration?

Why do they insist on your becoming a chiropractor? Engineering would seem more logical if it's about money.

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[aty135531]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Two million in debt is quite astounding. Has bankruptcy ever been a consideration?

Why do they insist on your becoming a chiropractor? Engineering would seem more logical if it's about money.

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It's all they talk about and yet all that complaining at me told me nothing about the actual situation in detail.

Sad to say, and I won't sugarcoat it, they are delusional, ignorant knob heads.