Am I overthinking about him watching porn?

I've decided I'll suggest we do it together tonight and see where that takes me, and I'm going to try to discuss what he thinks of my opinion about it too.

This from a porn fan is delicious hypocrisy. Or irony. Maybe both.

I know, Lefty. I do want to try to make him see that. It's a pretty damaging view to him too.

The guy likes porn. End of story. He's going to always like porn. He doesn't see this as anything that takes anything away from you.

It wouldn't matter if you were the sexiest, most gorgeous woman in the world. He would still want to watch porn. He is a voyeur - a watcher. However good his sex with you may seem to be, he still needs to watch people being sexual.

You can confront him all you want. This will not change. One reason this will just continue to go on is that he sees nothing wrong with this. In his mind, he is not hurting anyone.

He would prefer not to have you be offended. You'ld like him to give up the porn. He'ld like you to just not let it bother you. The two of you are at an impasse. Nothing is going to change. But he will keep getting sneakier.

I agree with Random and Rose76; you're describing an impasse. You're not going to be able to stop him from liking what he likes, and I doubt I or anyone else can (or should) talk you out of being offended by it. You do get to choose your battles; you've mentioned that he has positive qualities, and you'll be leaving him intent on finding a suitable replacement mate in a porn-saturated culture who will foreswear porn for you. I don't know if that would be difficult or worth it, but I wish you the best.

Even though I understand you, all I want to say is this: You really want to monopolize his orgasms?

I'd much rather he have them with me, rather than somewhere else.

It's normal to want that Mika

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I am in the same boat. My husband has been secretly watching Porn. I found out and confronted him about it. He lied, and said that someone must have hacked into his phone. REALLY? I am not stupid. I told him how I felt about Porn and he said he doesn't go to those sites. I have since found it on his browser history more than once.
I again asked about it. He exploded at me for "snooping" into his phone. And lets just say the argument got very explosive. FYI he is bipolar 1. So, I don't know if this is a symptom or what. Anyway, he told me that he goes out there to find better ways of pleasing me. HORSE@@&%!!! He knows how I feel about it, but yet he still does it. It feels to me like he is cheating on me with those images. He throws the argument back on me for not trusting him, etc... But he is the one that is violating my trust and disrespecting my feelings. Am I overreacting or what?

Certainly he should not lie to you.

If he were truthful, though, it seems that he wants to watch porn and you don't want a husband who watches porn. Perhaps there is room for some sort of compromise. Or to what extent is porn a dealbreaker for either of you?

Make their own porn and have him watch that?